YOUR COMMENTS

To the "two BHS students"- You might want to check your grammar next time you try to yell at adults who are trying to merely state opinions online. The opinions being expressed through this site are not going to be "used against" the students who got caught in any way. And think about it guys- aren't you being a little bit dramatic when you say that people are trying to "ruin their lives"?

When these kids are 21 years old, they'll look back at this and realize that it was a stupid mistake and hopefully they learned a lot from it. Being suspended from a sports team, or NHS, or any other school related activity may help them learn lessons in the long-run, however their lives will not be "ruined".

And feeding off of that, this is why we have certain laws in this country, so lives aren't ruined by drugs, or alcohol, etc. The choices these kids made that night could have easily ended badly if things had gotten out of hand.
- BHS Alumni, Bow, NH

This rumored incident has received more press than it needed. It seems politically motivated. Look, only Dr. C's son's name was published. If they were all involved and under the age of 18 none of their names should be published. Yet, only the superintendent's son was named. If this came out because of rumor this should have never been leaked and the school district (school board should be dealing with this in-house). The papers, etc should not have published a story based on rumors.

As a former colleague and parent of a student when he was a principal we found him to be very professional, ethical, and taught integrity.
The parents are upstanding people and the children are not different from our own children. Yet, they live under a microscope much of the time. Students are not usually popular when their parent (s) work in education. I was one of those parents. However, none of us are perfect.
The Union Leader should be apologizing to the family for making this such an important issue. There are many other events to cover that are much more important to follow.

I knew someone in the north country whose children did the same thing with their friends at the parent's house when they were gone one saturday night. ( a number of years ago) The police came and arrested them all. They went to court and were fined, their names were not in the paper except the parents. Do you get my drift?
- A parent, Laconia

Keep it simple. Allow the school system to implement it's code of conduct regarding student/athlete behavior. Hold these kids accountable, but leave room for their redemption. Parents, talk with your children about making better choices in the future. Let the legal system take the measures they feel necessary, but don't hold anyone in comtempt prior to thorough investigation. Try to be humble as this could've happened to anyone. And above all, try to be greatful that nobody was hurt.
- Michael, Conway, NH

I have known the Cascaddens for the last decade. Dean is a gifted educator, a loving father and husband, and a man of high moral principles. He has handled this situation like any good parent would. Leave them alone! I believe that the "Writer" of this story should find another line of work, if all he can do is publish a story of this incident. Try writing about the heroic stories of our soldiers, airmen, sailors, and marines fighting abroad!
- Andrew, Manchester, NH

I find it chilling that the "Two BHS Students, Bow" have such an opportunistic understanding of the law: "The police weren't involved because the party was found out a week later, which means there can be no proof of alcohol or other drugs. Do any of you conspiracy theorists know how the law works? Without evidence you OBVIOUSLY can't prosecute."

All this suggests is that kids are getting the message that you can do anything you want, as long as you don't get caught, because everyone else does the same. No, I'm not perfect, but at least I have a conscience.
- Rob, Dover, NH

I have known Dr. Dean Cascadden for many years. He is an excellent educator, a loving parent, a good friend, and a person with a clear sense of ethics, fairness, and honesty. His son and his friends made an error in judgment, he dealt with it as professional,
- Jon Dugan-Henriksen, Lancaster

Anyone who knows anything about Dean knows that he is a man of values, integrity, and really hard work.

Most parents have these kinds of things happen and are afforded the privacy of dealing with it behind closed doors.

We have much bigger things to worry about. Leave him and his son alone, and let them work it out just like every other parent is allowed to do in this town.
- John, Bow

I do believe that these kids are just like any other and I do not agree with them being kicked off of athletic teams.
The deserve to play the sports they've loved.

On the other hand, I do believe that they should be removed from the National Honor Society. My child missed three meetings instead of two and was kicked out because of that.

They clearly do not deserve their membership in the National HOnor Society because there are plenty of kids that do not drink and could have gotten in.

This incident was blown out of proportion and I feel very bad for Dr. Cascaden because he is a wonderful man, but I also feel bad for the kids who lost their spot in NHS to these kids who clearly did not revere the titles. I know these boys and girls and they are beautiful children, but they do not deserve this title. They should continue in sports, but not in NHS.
- Bow High School Parent, Bow

This is ridiculous. Everyone commenting is aloud to have their own opinion, however they're not needed here. The school is properly punishing these kids, and so are their parents. What you all need to remember is that you are NOT these kids parents and you have no right to weigh in on how to parent them. Have your opinions, but keep them to yourselves. The police weren't involved because the party was found out a week later, which means there can be no proof of alcohol or other drugs. Do any of you conspiracy theorists know how the law works? Without evidence you OBVIOUSLY can't prosecute. If you're going to have an opinion at least make it intelligent and a solid arguement, which none of these are.

These children's actions are of no consequence to you. They are getting punished. Worry about yourself. And, if your life is so pathetic that you have to try and help ruin teenage kid's lives than maybe you should reevaluate who are.
- Two BHS Students, Bow

Yes, kids do make mistakes. The time to realize what they have done is right now, not when they have done it before and gotten away with it. No, you can't take it back, but you can atone for it. Take your punishment and don't whine. Thank God you got caught and you can do something better next time Temptation Calls. God Bless. These kids are lucky. It wasn't fun to treat your parents like that, now was it?!!!
- Louise M. Lawrence, Bow

I know Ian, and some of the other students who were involved. These are great kids here, from wonderful families. Several of those involved are (were) on the National Honor Society, they participated in sports and babysit our children. All that has changed now. I am not saying that there shouldn't be any form of punishment, but to remove them from the sports that they love for the whole year?, or to kick them out of an organization they worked so hard to get into??? These all seem too harsh in my opinion. We should be helping them come to understand the dangers of Alcohol and it's long term consequences. Why, when things happen, do all outsiders seem to become experts and judge those who have tripped up? How is this going to benefit these kids? I have read the comments to both articles and I am so saddened by the reactions of many of the Adults. You all seem to have forgotten what it was like being 16/17 years old haven't you? What a bunch of hypocrites! I look forward to the day when I move out of such a haughty and judgmental town. There is a term that describes the parent that took this issue to the public and not keeping it between the parties involved, A "BOW MOM", women who have nothing else better than to go to games not even looking at the field/court and GOSSIP the entire time!!!! I am nauseated by these women and Bow is full of them. I hope you are happy with the knowledge that you have successfully crushed the spirit of these young adults. Think about what you are writing in in your comments, these same young people are reading every word.
Hang in there kids I am one Adult who love you and hope you learn from this and not make the same mistake in the future.
- A Caring Mom, Bow

Donna, Rye

What an oversight. I find it hard to believe that you gave yourself that kind of impression to all of us. So I guess a party on behalf of eleven kids justifies calling all kids of today lazy delinquents? It is that type of attitude that articles like this exist in the first place, turning the kids at this party into victims of the media, because clearly the Union Leader has nothing better to report than an uneventful party. I knew those kids as well, and I won't let you make such a brash generalization. The kids involved are good kids. Take your biased views somewhere else.

However punishment is just. Those involved probably knew the consequences that would happen were they to continue, but went along with the party anyway. Though between the Union Leader and Fox news this is getting way out of hand. I can't imagine why of all things that go on in Bow this is a special case. No one was hurt thought I do realize that it could have ended differently, but as it stands it didn't. So, corrective action is taken and we move on and hopefully this serves as a lesson that it doesn't happen again.
- Jimmy, UNH, Durham

omg people get a life.
students drink. and have parties. shocker!
i agree they should have been punished, because as athletes they knew the rules, and im pretty sure every underage student who drinks knows that if they're caught serious punishments will be inforced.
but honestly.. it happened, and the students have been repremanded. is it necesary to have all the media coverage hanging over their heads as well as the dissapointment from parents and coaches?
Mr. Cascaden is a great man, who had nothing to do with this. he is just like every other father. and his son&the other students involved.. like any other highschool students, looking for a good time.
- BHS student, Bow

This has gone too far..it's not "breaking news" and it's not like it's the first party to ever occur among high school students..stop trying to make an example out of these students..most of the kids that are being patronized are among the academically elite. We know that a good amount of you took part in inappropriate festivites when you were young..There's world wide issues going on that are much more important than a high school gathering..how about we focus on those and not make every day occurences such a huge deal. I hope you know that by exposing these students in such a way you've negatively impacted them socially and academically for the rest of their high school career, and possibly beyond. Well done everyone.
- two current bhs students, bow

Okay, we all know what you kids do. My head is not in the sand. HOWEVER, Ian and his friends did not stop to think about the position this put his father in if they were caught. That is just common sense. Oh, thats right, you loose that when you drink...... bottom line, when you do stupid things and dont think, there is fallout. I hope all of you kids that commend or support what occured never find yourselves on the other side of the situation. Ask your parents how it feels when your out for the night partying and we give you the benefit of the doubt when you tell us your at a movie?????? Been there done that. The fact that we HAVE been there and done that is why we all know better. Learn from your elders. And yes, Bow needs to educate, educate, educate.
- Bow Mom been there done that, Bow, NH

Wake up parents!!! Bow has a big problem w/drinking and drugs and has for a while. What about the sex that goes on in the school,during school (mats). Its true, nothing drastic will happen here...its Bow. We are very lucky to have such great teachers and coaches, unfortunetly we like many other towns also have these problems.
- Mom of BHS student, Bow

they were just trying to have a good time
- former BHS Student, Bow

This message board is partially made up of students who can identify with what really went on and parents who care about their children. The rest of you are busy bodies who should think twice before criticizing those who are involved with this situation, seeing as how you know little about what actually happened. Your only informative source was from a sponsored newspaper, making it biased. If you have NEVER had a personal experience with an "incident" such as this, congratulations, your slate is clean, but you also have a one sided point of view. If you HAVE had an experience similar to a party like this, then you should be empathetic toward the students involved, otherwise you are hypocritical. NOBODY got hurt for all of you saying "what if". The party was unlawful, but everyone is safe. Honestly, worry about yourself and your own children, and end your worries there.
- Pat, Bow

Forget about the drama, politics, and "judgment" (as one Bow parent stated). It's about SAFETY. I'm not sure why that isn't the number one point of concern here. Someone could have DIED. The kids in this incident (and all kids for that matter) need to be told that if one of their friends died in their sleep (from alcohol poisoning or choking on their vomit) or they killed someone while driving drunk, that they would end up in jail! Yes, it didn't happen THIS time, but the scary reality is that it could have and does happen daily in similar "safe" situations.
- BHS Grad, UNH Grad, NH

you did something wrong. you got caught. own up to it and stop justifying it.
- former student, bow nh

You have turned the villains of this situation into the victims by tormenting then in this news and media mass widespread. They were wrong, but so are you.
- Dr. Thompson, Allenstown

I am surprised to hear parents defending the students (and/or their child) involved in this incident. As for current BHS students and especially one "Bow High School Alumni" who stated this was a "good thing" and a "safe way to experiment..." A bunch of teenagers drinking (which is illegal by the way) at a party without supervision is NOT safe. Read the paper ever? Watch the news? This time nobody died, but it has happened many times before. I am socked at the lack of concern by some. Help our students learn from their mistakes and make better choices in the future.
- BHS Grad, UNH Grad, NH

Listen up! It's illegal to drink under the age of 21. So, all of them should have been arrested! Rules are to protect EVERYONE, not just the "kids" that think that it was okay because no one was driving. BS, I say!
- Betty, Wolfeboro, NH

Everyone knows, Bow loves drama. People have got so bored that they feel the need to over react about a stupid underage party. Everyone has done it, including all the "perfect parents" out there. Yes, obviously what they did was wrong, but do we really need to have a whole front page article about it. The Union Leaders priorities are not rightly placed.
- Bow Student, Bow, NH

This is absolutely crazy. The only reason people are making a big deal about this is because Bow is such a top of the line school. If this happened in Concord it would never be mentioned in the paper at all. Addressing Bob from Concord. You are crazy to think that Bow doesn't punish it's athletes. Anybody else who es upset over the punishment. Bow followed the NHIAA, that is the high school sports association for ALL of new hampshire, word for word. also the STATE rule is that if the incident doesn't occur in school there can be no punishment for school. I'm sorry you have a problem with STATE rules but if you do you should probably take it up with the people who actually matter.
- bow student, bow

This is absolutely ridiculous. If you all feel the need to create such drama about something like this, I hate to see how you'd react to half of the other things your kids are doing. Do you know how the sports teams even celebrate winning championships? Getting blackout drunk at someone's house. That's why the entire team is absent from school the next day. Right or wrong, drinking is a weekly thing to all these kids. And to the parents who think their kids aren't a part of these activities, you're in for a rude awakening. Regardless of what actions are taken, I know that nothing will change. Bow has a serious drinking and drug problem, and half of the parents and the community are oblivious to it. The Superintendent should not have his name associated with this. If he's going to get the grunt of this, there are MANY other parents in Bow who should too.. for example, the ones who provide the alcohol for the parties or the ones who knowingly host them.. not to mention the parents who party with their children. If this is such a concern to everyone, maybe you should actually try doing something about it instead of focusing on something so trivial as this.
- BHS Alumni, Bow

"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. ...... For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
- Bow Parent, Bow, NH

Does everyone know that Dr. Cascadden wasn't at the house right? How can he be held responsible for it?
- Remy, Bow

This is ridiculous, high school kids drink all the time. The Union Leader and everyone else is blowing this out of proportion. No one even knew that it happened until some stupid parent ratted them out, the police weren't called, and no one drove. People make bad decisions all the time, i bet that every one of you parents posting on this article drank in high school. Everyone needs to just chill out and stop talking about this. And the Union Leader needs to find something else to write about, something more important like the earthquakes happening in Indonesia.
- BHS Student, Bow, NH

alright so your kids don't drink either? just because they haven't been caught doesn't mean they don't do it either. BHS aren't perfect, and neither are your kids to so stop ripping on kids from Bow because of one party.
- Robert, BHS Student

taken from a previous post

"if these kids weren't associated with the superintendent of Bow School District, then potential scholarships, sports privileges, extracurricular activities (such as NHS) would be taken away from them. Are measures as dire as these being taken to punish these 11 kids?? Doubt it- like I said: It's all about politics in Bow, NH."

the kids caught are suspended from sports, are now looked down upon by the faculty and other parents, and kids in NHS are most likey going to be kicked out. things are being done about the issue.
- Bow student, Bow NH

Hm this incident reminds me of a certain senior class that did their senior prank a few years ago and decided it'd be a good idea to drink and vandalize school property...many of the students were athletes. Yet, those who were caught and "punished" were still allowed to walk with the senior class, while one particular student who was short one B.E.S.T. credit got punished by almost not being allowed to walk with her class since she wanted to take AP BIOLOGY instead. Athletes at BHS get priority when it comes to their games and being allowed to miss class, while band members get counted as absent if they have to practice during school hours for an event. It's about time we hold students (especially athletes) more accountable and let these types of articles remain examples that punishment should fit the crime.
- BHS Alumni, Bow

All of the parents are saying, "what if someone died, what if someone got hurt?"
you could ask this question when any one in the world drinks. yeah they were underage but are you saying that drinking in a controlled enviorment is more harmfull then people drinking in a bar and walking around a city with moving cars rapists and crazy people?
- Bow student, Bow NH

Dear donna from rye,
you have no idea about this incident do you? you have no facts about it. FYI those kids are not the most popular! i know them, they are my friends. kids will do as they please even if they have perfect parents like your self. They were not caught in the act they went off a rumor from a resident of bow. i bet rye has their fare share of parties that go un reported. leave these kids alone or get the facts then talk.
- bhs student, bow

Most adults don’t live under a rock so they know that kids will experiment during their teen years but regardless it still doesn’t make it right and it is still illegal. Bow students you seem to forget that if you are an athlete that you and your parents signed an agreement that says you will abide by the rules that include no use of alcohol or drugs. It really doesn’t matter where you are or whose house you are at or “when you were caught”. If you get caught then you need to suffer the consequences plain and simple. It also doesn’t matter if “these are good kids”. We all know good kids who have had accidents while driving drunk or doing drugs. We also know good kids who have done really dumb things while under the influence that they live to regret later. So are all of you students saying that if they were “really bad kids” and it was in the paper then it would be alright?
What are the consequences anyway? The athletes are still going to practice with their teams so the suspension doesn’t appear to be enforced. It seems strange that being suspended from the team means that you can go to practice. Parents don’t deny it we all know that the rules in Bow are enforced differently depending on who you are and this has gone on for years. And yes as others have said depending on the athlete the punishment will vary. Some things never change especially in Bow. And so it goes…
And Hali most of the kids that were there are athletes so not sure where you are getting your info from.
- Eyes Wide Open, Bow

They knew what was going to happen. Its their fault that they didn't listen and were irresponsible.
- Sally, Bow

As a graduate from BHS only a year ago, I can tell you all that the majority of these "incidents" don't get caught. But does that change the character of our student body and the town? Just because no one talks about it until there is a news story (with little merit to fit the news), doesn't mean it's not going on. This is not isolated to Bow, NH. My point is, underage drinking or not, Bow is one of the most competitive schools in the state, academically and athletically. We are a student body who takes pride in their grades, has an active interest in the world, wins state championships, includes a 90%+ rate of going to a four year university. If underage drinking just happens to be a part of that, I think I can accept it. This was a few people having a good time with a substance the vast majority of adults use on a regular basis. Get off your high horses parents, and accept that these things happen.
- Nathaniel (Former Student), Bow

The fact of the matter is, these kids broke the law and the athletic code of conduct (for those that were athletes). No exceptions should be made for them, and they should take their punishment respectively. They knew when they participated in this "incident" that what they were doing was wrong. However, that doesn't make them bad kids. They made a mistake, and that's that. This matter should not have been taken into the hands of the media, and should be handled by the parents and the school only.

To all those people saying "weren't you ever young?" or "kids will be kids", you need to realize that our parents have our best interest at hand, and when they tell us not to get involved with things like this, we need to listen to them. unlike us, they know from experience (they went to high school too!). they're a whole lot wiser than we are, and we need to wake up and realize that.
- BHS student, Bow

These students are not bad people.. how many of us have made mistakes in our lives? So what if it happened at the superintendant's house? Yes it was wrong and the students are paying their consequences and the fact that they have to read it in the newspaper to let everyone else know about their fault is cruel. Newsflash: they're not the only people in the world who have done it. If you haven't, good for you but no one is perfect. Let them solve their problems without having to call it juicy gossip, considering it really isn't.
- Your average high school student, Bow

how can you be outraged that they broke the law? The law once stated that blacks were 3/5 of a white male. Our patriots broke british law before they founded our country. The point is the law is not infallible.

I'm in college now and i know a few people who didn't drink in high school and i'm glad that i drank while i was in high school. Discovering the how alcohol affects your body in a safe environment is much better. Parents do you really want your kids to learn the affects of alcohol in college or wherever they are? Do you think its safer than bow?

If you don't think kids are going to drink then your kid must not have any curiosity, or care what a vast majority do for fun. i hope bow parents come back to reality.
- bow alumni, bow,nh

What should we do hang these kids?
The only reason this is such a big deal is that it has made the news and been turned into a MEDIA CIRCUS. Wake up parents- This kind of " incident" happens in every town every weekend! If you are a parent of a high school student don't be so oblivious to this FACT. These kids have done nothing but be honest about their actions and are accepting the consequence to such actions, that is simply enough...leave them alone. And for those of you who say "Bow" would never suspend their star athletes...You are Wrong....Time to move on.
- tmjt, Bow

Whether it was at the superintendents house or someone else's house, drinking is wrong. Not only is it against the law, but the their "night of fun" let their teammates down.
The drinking age is 21 for a reason. There are many fun activities you can be a part of that don't involve harmful substances. If you don't want something like this to reach everyone or make the news, then don't do it. Get off your lazy intoxicated bum and do something that is productive and actually matters. Underage drinking isn't even cool. It makes you look stupid. And people who defend underage drinking look foolish too.
What's done is done. Let it go. It was a really stupid thing to do, but we all need to just moveee onnnn.
- Sally, Bow

This sounds like living in Hazzard County instead of Bow NH. This principle talks like Boss Hogg and reaks of corruption. The Governor and the state should step in and their should have some heads roll over this and have some terminations and expulsions in order.
- Bob, Manchester

LOL yes dukes of hazzard!

But seriously Casccaden is a good man and super superintendent. Kids have always been drinking and doing drugs. Our parents were too in the 60s, 70s, and 80s, and still do today. No one got hurt. This "news"paper tarnished Ian's reputation. It's not like there's a gang war or anything people. All these parents crying and whining about this stupid incident, did you guys have alcohol and parties back in your day, or is that a new thing?
- Stephen, Bow High

This is ridiculous. The school needs to focus on more important issues then atheletes having parties on the weekends like every other high school in this country. Lets pretend the drinking age was 16, and parents were more accepting of teenage drinking. It would be much more safe, because parents could make sure nobody would drive home at all. Parties are inevitable in high school. If parents were more open and accepting, teens would not have to sneak alcohol all the time. Just look at European countries where the drinking age is considerably lower.
Lets try to have some sympathy for Dr. Cascadden. These kids are good people, they're just trying to have fun. When you live in a really boring town on the weekends and there's nothing to do, teens will have parties. I completely understand what is going on. I hope the athletes get back onto the team and everyone stop making Dr. Cascadden a scapegoat. Just because hes a superintendant doesn't mean that he isn't like every other parent of a teenager!
- Bow High School Alumni (At CSC College), Bow

To Donna from Rye

Kids of today are lazy delinquents? seriously do you have children? most likely not. Just because you were apparently an angel child doesn't mean that everyone is as GREAT as you are. Congratulations. How dare you question peoples parenting skills when you don't even know them. Do you realize that children aren't just influenced by their parents? but by the media, siblings, and their peers? And maybe you should understand something; you don't know these students. These "little darlings" aren't the "most popular kids in school". And just curious did you read the article or did you just put your completely ridiculous comment in? The students are being punished; they have the counseling, community service, etc. Plus they have the embarrassment of this situation. Do you really think they feel good about this? because they don't. These are GOOD KIDS, and not all of them are athletes either so this whole "not punished because they are athletes" theory is completely absurd. Maybe you should live in the town and actually know what you are talking about before you pass judgement on something you don't fully understand. Thanks.
- Hali, Bow

The story here isn't kids drinking, it's that Bow HS students might be held accountable for their actions...now that's a headline!
Very typical of the way the school works, rumors and image managment lead to decisions. House-Meyers shows his true colors in the last sentence, no guts.
- BR, Bow

There goes the Useless Leader again...reporting speculation, casting everyone in a negative light, and not BOTHERING to get the facts. By the way, Dean Cascadden is an upstanding educator, but that does not mean his children may not makes mistakes or should be held to a higher standard. Kids make mistakes with and without parental knowledge...FACT...let's find out the rest of the story...what a novel idea
- Clovis, Bristol

I have only read the article above and nothing else. The article indicates "someone said" police were not called? It sounds like a rumor mill that is snow balling. It probably happened and it probably could have been hushed up quickly. The man doesn't appear to be protecting his son or blaming the other kids. I do think it would serve well for him to suffer the same punishment handed out to the kids. He failed in his responsibilities at home. Don't hang him out to dry, just get his attention publicly and make him regret what occurred. He is probably a good Joe just grubbing out a living and ignoring his kids needs like millions of other parents today.
- Fred, saint petersburg,florida

I would rather be reading about the Indonesian earthquakes or something of relevance instead of a joke of a news story like this.
- BHS Student, Bow, NH

A very interesting article. Our child had a party when we were not at home at the end of the school year and we were not aware until after the fact. When we found out we were horrified and very disappointed in our child and those that were there. Fortunately no one was hurt but there could have been a tragedy - then it would have captured everyone's attention in a very different way. Yes, we had parties when we were in high school. Yes, we understand what it's like. However, now that we are wise to this and understand the unmistakable consequences of this behavior we know all too well from the "news" and our own mistakes that this is not acceptable behavior. I don't care if there is no "proof" - the fact is, it was wrong. If one of your friends died that night - you would agree. Don't make bad decision and lash out at those who have "been there and done that" - we are your wisdom. Listen and learn.
- Bow HS Parent, Concord

It was the kid's own fault for having it at the superintendent's house. They had to have realized that if people found out, and they would have because it's Bow, that it was going to be blown all out of proportion. You guys should have found someplace else to have the party, or just not have it at all. And like Tessa said, if it was at someone else's house then it wouldn't have been that big of a deal, SO WHY DIDN'T YOU HAVE IT AT SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE?!
- Alexis, Texas

Wow. Everyone needs to calm down. They are all good kids and im pretty sure half of you guys drank in high school. They didn't drive, no one was hurt, so everyone should take a deep breath and stop blowing this completely out of proportion.
- BHS Student, Bow

This is so stupid. This has been thrown way out of proportion. Anyone here could agree that they made at least one bad decision in their lives. There is no point for this to be in a newspaper. Just because he is the superintendents son doesnt make the superintenedent a bad man. If a lawyers son was caught breaking the law it wouldnt be in the newspaper. Leave the kids alone and get one with your life.
- BHS Student, Bow

Honestly, it's not a big deal, it just needs to be handled as outlined by the law/rules. It's that simple. Doesn't mean they're bad kids, doesn't mean they were right. It's only a "scandal" because of it involves, the fact of the matter is that Bow has one of the biggest drug problems around, and maybe bringing some light and some action to the matter will help keep kids from being so tempted by it. But the matter just needs to be handled as outlined by the law and rules, that's it.
- Molly, Bow

Brittany whoever doesn't seem to quite understand the idea of laws. I think the Bow School system needs to do an educational lesson on laws and how they work.
- Liz, Bow

No one has to get hurt for it to be against the law. The fact of the matter is that our law states that you cannot drink until you are 21. On top of that, the Bow athletics department has guidelines that all athletes are aware of. Simply because "no one got hurt" does not mean that they didn't break the law, and the rules. Therefore, there is no dispute that it should be handled by what the law and rules say. If anything, we should just be glad no one got hurt.
- Sarah, Bow

This is ridiculous. I can understand punishing the kids involved because it did violate a rule that kids agree to follow when on an athletic team, but the fact that this is in the paper in outrageous. Ian's reputation is going to be soiled now all because the Union Leader wanted a story. I pity Clynton Namuo for writing this article because he clearly lacks the ability to find a good story and would rather tarnish a kids name for a quick buck. Lets face it, teens have had parties with underage drinking in the past, they happen nowadays, and they are going to continue in the future. No matter the effort put into in its not something that can be stopped; its something everyone experiences, mistake or not. What does need to stop, though, is stories like this that are put in newspapers. Stick to targeting criminals in your stories, not student athletes.
- Blake, Derry

High School kids drinking... wow thats a huge surprise, I didn't know HS kids drank... o wait it happens all the time. I'm glad that the school is enforcing it, and I'm glad that no-one is hurt, but is this REALLY news? Everyone talks about prevention, at that age kids will take it as a joke, trust me I was there.
- BHS Alumni At College, Savannah, GA

I went through the Bow school system a while ago. Things of this nature have been happening for years. Kids will be kids and want to rebel. It's still illegal and shouldn't be tolerated, but its still going to happen, one way or another. Speculating on this topic won't accomplish any good. Let those involved deal with it and move on.
- John, Bow

Dear Thomas Keane and Clynton Namuo,

Let's suppose you are a person of importance in a community or school district and your teenager, like most do at their age, makes an irrational decision without realizing the effects on themselves or their families. What would you do? You would want to treat this as quietly as possible while still teaching your child a valuable lesson of growing up, that everyone learns eventually.
What I'm getting at here is that we all mature at one point or another. Ian Cascadden and all other students at this "incident", as many of you are calling it, is learning and I bet you he just learned a lot. Let's let him learn with his family like everyone else, and not make it front page news, shall we?
- Jon Smith, Bow

So, according to so many people here, as long as you don't get caught in an illegal activity, it's OK?

Get a grip people...It's illegal! Does killing someone as long as I don't get caught make it OK...I mean, after all, there are so many murderers out there...it must make it OK as long as I don't get caught.

We are a nation of laws! Just because this happened in Bow, doesn't put these kids (and parents) above the law, as much as some of them would like to think it does.

If this had happened in a less affluent town, do you think the people that live in ivory towers in Bow would think it should be pushed under a rug and hidden? I doubt it seriously!
- TV, Concord

Student Athletes are unfairly treated!! The kids that don't play sports don't have to go through all this.

I refused to sign a paper promising to turn my kid in, promising not to allow my child to be alone with other children in my home, etc. What kids do out of school is none of the school's buisness.

Perhaps we should get rid of school sports too.
- Annie, Henniker

Not a surprise that no actions are being taken to teach these kids a lesson. Especially with sports involved! God forbid our sports teams suffer and lose the "star players". It's all about politics, and it sickens me. No, the police should not be called, however there should be certain measures taken to teach these kids a lesson.

It's very doubtful that anything will ever happen to the 11 kids who got in trouble. HOWEVER, looking deeper into the picture, if these kids weren't associated with the superintendent of Bow School District, then potential scholarships, sports privileges, extracurricular activities (such as NHS) would be taken away from them. Are measures as dire as these being taken to punish these 11 kids?? Doubt it- like I said: It's all about politics in Bow, NH.
- BHS Alumni, NH

I LOVE BOW, NH!!!!!!!!!! To mo, and Fred and ESPECIALLY the other Bow Grad.. GET A LIFE! You can't charge a man for having kids drink at his home when HE WASN'T THERE! He wasn't hosting an underage drinking party, nor was he even aware it was going on! If only you knew the kids that were there.. you'd realize that EVERYONE in this town thought they were perfect angels. Whoever wrote a comment from Bow and has a child attending BHS needs to WAKE UP. I went to Bow, I was a three season athlete, and was also friends with kids who weren't in the athletic program. Kids drink, get off your high horses and stop being to nieve.EVERYONE makes mistakes.

IT'S BOW, NH UNIONLEARDER. FIND A STORY THAT ACTUALLY MATTERS!
- BOW HIGH GRAD, BOW

This is ridiculous. I feel bad for superintendent Cascadden who has to deal with this affair being blown out of proportion. It is silly that all this has happened in response to such a non-issue. Bow parents need to start taking responsibility for their own children and not everyone else's.
- Satan, Hopkinton

It's the idiotic thinking that goes on (and represented right here) is why the kids of today are lazy, delinquents.
Yes, I remember being young, I also remember NOT drinking.
I saw what it did to the kids by the accidents they got into and totalled their parent's cars, their grades, and let's not forget what dirtbags they turned out to be.
Your "kids will be kids" statement just proves what lousy parents you are.
Kids do what they see at home. If they are encouraged to use other means to have fun or deal with their problems, they will turn to that instead of drugs and alcohol.
ALL those kids should be kicked off sports for the entire year. Their punishment should include some time visiting those that alcohol has ruined their lives.
But like Pauline said, these little darlings are the popular ones of the school and the punishment will probably be nothing.
- Donna, Rye

There is no way BHS will suspend star athletes. They have ignored alcohol and drug use by their athletes in the past. So why start now.
- Bob, Concord

I believe that these kids were dead wrong for doing this. Teenage drinking is a huge issue in Bow, but to take it to the level where the kids were doing it, at the superintendent's house unsupervised, is completely out of line.

Much less, underage drinking itself is a crime.

"Superintendent Dean Cascadden said the students, including his son Ian, violated the athletic department's code of conduct that banned drinking, drugs and smoking or being at a party where minors are drinking or using drugs."

Yes, it violated the athletic code of conduct but does anyone question the law involved here? It is typical that Bow High School would first jump to the athletic handbook and not look at the actual laws involved.

In 1984 The National Minimum Drinking Age Act was passed by The United States Congress. It mandated that all states enforce the drinking age of 21.

The drinking age is 21, not 16. I think it is a poor reflection of the character of these Bow student "athletes" that they feel they can defy United States federal law. Furthermore, it is a poor reflection on the school that they seem (according to this article) to be focussing only on the athletics issue in this.

Yes, this incident could happen anywhere and teenage drinking may happen all over the country. But this is no excuse, it happened and it is against the law. To make sure it does not happen again and set precedent for other "incidents", I feel the school needs to take a harsher stance.
- Bow Resident, Bow, New Hampshire

This has nothing to do with the police, and should have nothing to do with the school considering they have no proof that an actually party occurred. If they walked in thats one thing, since they didn't they really have no idea and could be based upon all assumption. Anyone could go to the school's office and claim that there was a party the previous weekend, NONE of these students should be penalized for this. Period.
- Charlie, Bow

Many of you parents are way to dumb! if your child was at a party then you wouldn't be telling everyone to prosecute these kids. everyone should just leave this topic alone and just get on with their lives. these kids weren't even caught in the act.
if you see this as a terrible thing then you dont get out much and have no social life.
if you want to be sucessful then the number one way of doing so is going to social events and meeting new people.
everyone makes mistakes.
ps.. no narks
- Ted, Student, Bow

Dear Union Leader Editors,

In reference to the Saturday night party that happened recently in Bristol, N.H.,
I often say to the students with whom I work that I am totally against the abuse of alcohol and totally against the use of drugs. I do not drink, but I am enough of a realist to know that there are Saturday night parties and that there often is a lot of drinking. It is good if those who are participants are caught and punished, and provided with counseling,etc., but let us not go overboard with a contiuation of the punishment. Good people make mistakes; however, let us all set examples of right things to do and not continue with pointing the guilty finger at good people who have made mistakes and who are now making amends. Showing kindness is so important for everyone.

Sincerely,

Winthrop Buswell (Buzz)
- Winthrop H. Buswell, 27A Gillette St., Laconia, N.H. 03246

The 11 student at bow are just like any other students at anyother school. Experimenting with such substances as alcohal is extreamly normal for any highschool student. The police and school shouldn't of been brought into this mess, it should be between the students and their parents. Being kicked off the sports teams, writing essays and going to rehab? Isn't that a little much, YES IT IS! Its rediculous that so much attention has been brought to this little delema. We should stop worrying about this stupid and pay attention to some news that actually matters. This needs to be droped, the students have learned their lesson. MOVE ON ALREADY!!
Parents, this is our school. We have the same right to comment on this page as you do. Everyone makes mistakes, i bet you have made many in your life time. Its not fair to put all of bows focus on this. Its not fair to the students.
- Lindsay, Bow

Another Bow Parent: Thanks for the 'awesome advice'. I think myself and my fellow students are completely entitled to commenting on this article, maybe even more than you are. Who does this affect? Us. Thanks anyway.

The fact that this "incident" was at the superintendent's house is completely irrelevant to the situation. Kids partied, they got in trouble, they are dealing with the consequences shouldn't that be the end of this? Dean Cascadden is a great superintendent, one of the best we have ever had. He isn't just the superintendent, he is a father so he has to deal with this on a personal level not just a professional one. I know the students involved in this and they aren't bad kids. Haven't any of you ever heard the saying "nobody's perfect"? People make mistakes, ESPECIALLY teenagers. This is completely out of hand.
- Hali, Bow

Wow! For all the parents that are responding saying that this is wrong, you better wake up and check on your kids or even better, leave them alone. High school kids drinks. It's a good thing because it gives them a chance to experiment before going off to college and making even dumber choices. What if your child goes off to college, goes to their first party and does not realize the effect of alcohol or how many beers they can handle? At least this way they are in a safe environment, among their friends and will be taken care of. Everyone take a deep breathe, relax, AND GET OVER IT!
- Bow High School Alumni, Bow, NH

we have the freedom to be on the computer in the library Bow Parent. We are in America, freedom of speech lady. you're wasting your time sitting at your computer at home complaining about other parent's kids. 95 percent of this school consumes alcohol and whether you believe it or not, your child probably does too. stop thinking your child is an angel goody good, because they are not. that's life get used to it.
- BHS Student, Bow

Wow! For all the parents that are responding saying that this is wrong, you better wake up and check on your kids or even better, leave them alone. High school kids drinks. It's a good thing because it gives them a chance to experiment before going off to college and making even dumber choices. What if your child goes off to college, goes to their first party and does not realize the effect of alcohol or how many beers they can handle? At least this way they are in a safe environment, among their friends and will be taken care of. Everyone take a deep breathe, relax, AND GET OVER IT!
- Bow High School Alumni, Bow, NH

This is stupid. Can none of you remember what it was like to be a teen. This stuff happens all the time, in all High School. The only reasson anyone is finding this all interesting is because of the fact that it was at the superintendent house. jezz. it was 11 kids hanging out. no one got hurt! so no need for anyone to be arrested, or anything else to happen. everyone is just really over reacting to it all.
- Brittany (BHS student), bow

"Cascadden described what happened as an "incident" "

The more things change the more they stay the same, eh Dean?
- Dave, Berlin

they broke the law, got found out. just because nobody died doesn't mean it was okay to do. you can't pick and choose which laws to follow. don't like it? change the law. otherwise, follow it and suffer the consequences of breaking it. no whining.
- Mark, Bow

Parents today are in denial about their kids' drinking--and are so quick to blame everyone else. This is not worth hurting this Man's reputation. These kids obviously need more supervision!!
- ADNH, Plymouth, NH

everyone is commenting, and saying that these kids were wrong! seriously how many of you can honestly say that when you were in high school you didn't go to a party where there was underage drinking. everyone is really just over reacting. it was a party, get over it.... just cause it was in bow doesn't mean that it needs to be put in the paper, manchester, concord, plymoth, they all have parties too.
- Brittany, Bow

Bow Students, get off the computers in the library and get back to school work. If you think everyone is drinking on the weekend b/c you do, doesn't make it right, nor does it make it legal. (Parents- Have you checked your liquor lately? Sounds like some of these kids are pretty good at hiding it.) All it takes is one alcohol related death to get people upset about underage drinking which occurs in the United States daily, we have been lucky to not have it happen in Bow yet....
The school, parents and students are now dealing with poor choices made over the weekend. As long as the consequences are equal for all, it's time to move on.
- Another Bow Parent, Bow, NH

"Cmon, the guys is not even a big wig" So what; how about Cmon, the cop isn't even a big city cop just a cop from a small Town. If this happened at a cop's house you would be all over this cover up, all over it.

And yeah Bow is small, about 8500 people but it sure isn't poodunk and therefore OK to sweep under the carpet.
- Calef M., Concord

As a father i would not be upset that my child tryed a beer big woop.
- ben, bow

This sounds like living in Hazzard County instead of Bow NH. This principle talks like Boss Hogg and reaks of corruption. The Governor and the state should step in and their should have some heads roll over this and have some terminations and expulsions in order.
- Bob, Manchester

Well, as a BHS parent I was surprised to see this in the Union Leader on Thursday morning. I had not seen it in the Concord Monitor and had not heard it from my child or any other BHS parent. Apparently this involves the "upper eschelon" in the Bow community. I have to say I am glad that my child does not associate with these people who think it's ok to do all of this stuff and have no consequences. How about teaching your kids to be responsible and follow the rules? What a concept!
- BHSMom, Bow

I'm shocked to hear that even a school chief's son drinks? That's crazy talk. Next you'll say a president's son(and future president) does drugs? Crazy
- james, manchester

Micheal Phelps won several gold metals in the Olympics and was seen hitting a bong. It was a teenage party, doesn't mean Bow won't still be great in most sports with those kids on the team. Were any of you ever kids?
- Brittany, Bow

So, a superintendent is the father and therefore we must make a spectacle of teenage drinking? I don't think so. Why would you exploit someone because of their profession? Without knowing all the details, how do you make accusations about charges that should ensue? This is a family matter and the public should respect that. Spend your time worrying about your own kids.
- Barb, Northfield

To those from Bow dismissing this: What if one of the drunk, under age, BHS students drove home and killed themselves and/or someone else? And what if one of the SP to arrive at such a tragic scene was the mother of one of these kids? Oh, then it would be a story and you naysayers would be blaming the school and everyone else. And those who dismiss it because it may be something they did in the youth, this is height of stupidity.
- Jack Burns, concord

I am a student at bow high school. this is the talk of the school atm. this has been blown out of proportion. they had a party big deal. no one drove or got hurt. the police did not catch them in the act so they cant get involved. there is nothing for them to get involved with. its a parent child situation. who ever told the principal that there was a party really has no life. why would you want to ruin the times on 11 good kids. who has the nerv to do so. the grad from bow away at college i mean c'mon you act like your happy this happend what if it was you. and to all the parents out there who are in denial that their children are angels and will never do this. news flash all kids will mess up all parents have messed up also. it could have been your child just as easy is it was their children. nothing else should happen to these kids they are good kids that probably mad a bad choice. other kids make the same choice they did every weekend. theses kids just were told on by a low life.
- stewart smith, nashua

this incident has been taken way out of hand and should be put to an end. it's stupid that it got brought into the school and the media. dr cascadan is the man. he should not be punished because he did not know of this until the high school confronted him about it. gettng the police involved is so ridiculous.

FRED ROSCHOW- you dont know what you're talking about clearly. if it was your son, you wouldnt report it to the police. they didnt even get caught, a nosy parent got into other kid's buisness and called the school, and there was no proof. so get your head out of the gutter
- Emily, Bow

doctor cascadden is the man.
- BHS student, bow

Got to love these forums. Gives everyone the chance to complain who actually got caught or those who think they and theirs would "never do that". Tell me, how do you call the police on something that already happened and there is no proof of! The students should and will be held to the same school standards and policies as everyone else. This only begs two real questions. Do we really need to tar and feather over something that happens throughout all generations and every week of every year around the country. Finally this paper should find some real news that people actually care about, maybe then our major papers wouldnt be struggling.
- Josh, Berlin

dear doug of alton, why are you surprised that police were not called, no one was hurt, it isnt a police matter because they were not found with anything or doing anything.
- Bow Falcon, Bow, NH

Tracy, Bow - actually, the use of 'nor' to describe a negative series is is correct. Look it up in the dictionary, or just remember "either or, neither nor".
- Matthew, Manchester

It goes to show you, that ALL kids can get into trouble and that ALL parents can have a child that will give them a run for their money. No one has the perfect parenting book even though some may think that they do. It is very hard to raise a teen in this day and age. I bet the police weren't called because no one called them on that day. If he were my child, I wouldn't call them after the fact. I would deal with him in my own way. Just as most of you say, it is up to the parents to discipline and bring the child up right. If this happen to the ordinary Joe Smoe no one would be reading this in the newspaper. People only care because he happened to be a superintendent's son.
- Gayle, Kingston NH

Why does this seem like such a surprise?? School officials everywhere know that kids are tempted with drugs etc. If not, these policies would not be in place. Kids will be kids, and test the limits. High school kids will test the limits, that part of the brain is not fully developed. Some life lessons should be learned from this incident. I am sure it will open a lot of parents eyes and students as well.
- Bow High School Parent, Bow, NH

He'll get a slap on the hand, still be able to play sports , graduate AND get awards just like Farris' son did here.
All school districts are the same and protect their jocks.
- Pauline, Franklin

The ol' "we-all-did-it" defense...oh, so that makes it ok? That's funny, I always sort of thought it would be a step in the right direction if my kid did NOT repeat my mistakes.
And the ol' "nobody-got-hurt" defense...well, you might say the same thing about the first time you pull the trigger in Russian Roulette, too, but you probably don't want to keep playing.
And finally, of course this is a news story (and it probably deserves to be on Page One) in the same way it would be a story if the police chief's kid got busted for smoking pot at the chief's house in any small town in America. It's called "irony."
- RC, Claremont

Sorry we live in a town where not much goes on. kids will try stuff and parents tried stuff also. this town is boring so kids want to have fun and it soulds like their fun was cut down.
- BJ Brown Jr., Bow

I think that this is completely a family matter, between all the students and the parents. Dr. Cascadden and his son, should be treated like every other parent and teen that are going through this situation. The fact that this is becoming public information is completely inappropriate because this is a family issue, and consequences are obviously being dealt with.
Dr. Cascadden is like every other parent, with the occasional rebellion from teens. We see this happen all the time, why should we overdo this situation? Just because Tom Keane has a personal vendetta agains Dr. Cascadden doesn't mean we should cater to this need. People need to realize where the news and family problems has a fine line. Treat this issue with respect because Dr. Cascadden is dealing with this like any other parent.

Tom Keane needs to get oer himself.
- Alicia, Concord

The 5-0 really doesn't need to be involed...
- Jeff, concord

Personally, I don't automatically assume that rumors are true. "He said a parent heard about the incident and reported it to school administrators, who followed up and instituted the punishments." That sounds an awful lot like gossip to me. I think the principal gave the right response when he said "I cannot confirm nor deny," which is an appropriate answer for someone who does not know for sure whether or not a rumor is true. Without video or several matching eye witness reports, I will always be at least somewhat skeptical about any story I hear or read. Many people love to talk about others' indiscretions because it makes them feel better about their own. Unfortunately as stories get told from one person to the next, they often get more and more scandalous because gossipers often like to make up details or exaggerate their stories. Some gossipers are parents. Others are school administrators. Some of the worst gossipers get into the newspaper business so that they can more efficiently share their gossip with millions of people and get paid for it.
- Tim Logsdon, Somersworth

Can't wait to read the responses from the "what about the children" do-gooders club. We'd better call in the state liquor enforcement, alcohol counselors, local police, state police, ducky from NCIS, teachers from that drunk school in epping, and really just run with it and blow this way out of proportion. These people have way too much time on their hands. Wish they would go find a hobby and leave the rest of us alone.
- Ed, Manchester

When I saw this article online, I wasn't a bit surprised by the allegations, but by the fact that this was published in the newspaper. The young adults that attend Bow High School of Bow aren't used to being held accountable for their actions. As someone who graduated from BHS and witnessed the ridiculous nepotism and disregard for the rules typical of the administration, it's good to see that people are taking notice. This is not the first time events like this, when high profile Bow kids are involved in illegal activity, have occurred, they're actually quite frequent. This is one of the first times I have seen such events published in the paper. Understandably, the Union Leader recognizes this is a particularly juicy story, as the Superintendent's son and home are involved. I am still glad it was taken to the press and BHS's athletic handbook was a used to enforce the rules, a rarity. Perhaps this will usher in a new change in enforcement at BHS. Highly doubtful, though scandal is a great accelerant.
- BHS Grad, Away at College

It sounds like parents and officials found out about this party after the fact, and not the night of, which would explain why the police were not called. You cannot charge a minor with drinking alcohol if they are not in possession of it at the time, or currently intoxicated. Without the police being called to the home, while the party was happening, there was no way to determine if the students were drinking. Maybe these kids should have kept their mouths shut rather than telling people about their drinking party, then they would not be in trouble. as for charges against the superintendent, and correct me if I am wrong, but I believe that you cannot be charged unless you knowingly allow and facilitate a drinking party, and nothing in this article suggests that he knew about it. As for the commenters asking for the superintendent to be arrested, this would be unnecessary. High school kids party all the time, and although I am not supporting it, it does happen. Many times even in your own home or their friends, and yes, this may include your perfect little angel as well.
- Phil, Laconia

Wow kids drinks in HS. Why is this a big deal. You would be hard pressed to find a parent, official, administrator etc who didn't drink in HS or attend parties like these. Back in the 70's, 80's and even 90's this was accepted behavior now its taboo? What's changed? Its called America is getting wimpier and people forget where they came from.
- Sam, Laconia

Let's see if the Bow police will investigate now. Well maybe the liquor guys could drive that big van over to Bow HS and park it in front to "educate" the students.............yeah that sounds like a great idea! Wow now the plan is all coming together!
- Will, Concord

dear Fred Roschow, of Bristol, why should he be arrested, he was not at the house, and had no idea of the event taking place.
- Phil White, Bow, NH

The only comment here that's on the mark is Frank. Why is this news? This happens ALL the time in EVERY town and doesn't end up in the paper. Has the Union Leader descended so low that they have to scrape this story off the bottom of the barrel? Let's just put in every incident where kids drink - you could fill the paper. The only reason this is here is because it involved the Superintendent - who by all accounts is an exceptional person doing a fine job. Clearly some disgruntled person felt some sense of smug satisfaction reporting this to the UL - but the damage is not just to the Superintendent, but his family and the other kids involved who are undoubtedly good kids (they are athletes not deadbeats) who made a mistake. As for the issue of police involvement - police are called when there is a disturbance - if this was a quiet event there is no reason this would happen - and not some kind of cover-up as Mr. Burns seems to imply. Go find some real news to report.
- Craig, Franklin

Maybe people should stop acting like they were so innocent in high school, no one got hurt, no one got arrested. the only thing wrong here is that people cant keep their mouths shut. there shouldn't have been arrests because the cops were not called to the house, they had no physical evidence of anything happening.
- Bow Student, Bow NH

This sort of thing happens every weekend in high school. The only reason that people are making such a huge deal out of it is because it was at the superintendents house. If it had been anyone else's house then this would have never happened but people like to make a huge deal out of nothing. Compared to what other kids do every weekend, this is no big deal. These kids lives shouldn't be ruined for something that is so common in high school and the fact that it was put in the newspaper instead of actual news shows how really pointless this newspaper is.
- Tessa, Bow

It's "very interesting" that the Superintendent failed to report this incident to the Bow High School.
- ps, Bow

C'mon. The guy is not a "high state official". He's superintendent of a small town school system. Jeez, 11 kids hanging out, probably drinking beer, no noise complaints, everybody got home safe. One parent complained. And you expect the father to get arrested? Hey, sure if he's serving, but that doesn't look like the case here. The conspiracy theorists on this board are incredible-every cop, town or state gov't employee is crooked and/or gets special treatment-do I have that right?
- richm99, Hudson

And how many party's are never even discovered? It doesn't have anything to do with where the party was and whether it was a party or an "incident." The issue is that sometimes kids make poor choices and it is the responsibility of the adults in their lives to help them understand the error. I'm sure all of the parents of the involved students are horrified. Why compound the kids error by confusing the issue with WHOSE child it was. What about editors who make poor choices?
- Jennifer Larochelle, Hebron

I have a daughter at Bow High School and I feel the Superintendent is doing a fine job. His son is a good kid. Let's think about when we were in High School, I bet you all can think of times you drank illegally. Don't pass judgment on this man, he is a parent just like the rest of us. Raising a child in this day and age is very tough with all the stress of the day to day issues, never mind small minded folks passing judgment.
- Bow High School Parent, Bow, NH

This is a NON-Story, just the paper trying to stir that waters and make a public worker look bad.
- Ben, Manchester

It's all in who you know and who you are, and how much money you have.
- Al Pyne, Manchester

I think some of you are forgetting a pretty big point...

This is all based on rumor, I see no evidence that this actually happened.

Did the kids confess? we don't know do we. The police weren't called? well maybe thats because nothing happened.

It is kind of ridiculous that all this is going down because a parent reported this based on rumor?

I am sure there are other details, but they certainly are not shown here. I always get a kick out of the people that want to "lock'em up and throw away the key" based on almost no information.
- AC, Londonderry

I didn't realize that "school district superintendent's "school district superintendent" was a "high state official". I am pretty sure Mr. Cascadden has the same rights as everyone else and can not be charged (and convicted by some) unless a formal complaint is filed. Mr. Cascadden should be treated just like everyone else. His kid should get the same punishment as everyone else. Period. Not more just because he is a "high state official". He should be allowed to handle the situation like any parent and not assumed to be guilty or part of a conspiracy. Jack and Fred, get a life.
- Allan, Rochester

Denial is a river in Egypt. BOW has denied that there is a serious problem with drugs, alcohol and suicide for a very long time. In fact, they killed the Student Assistance Program this year because it was working last year. Maybe this will wake up House-Myers and the rest of the administration that has it's heads in the sand.
- DUBBA, BOW

Some of the comments here are unbelievable. Why make it sound like a conspiracy? Kids are kids no matter who their parents are.

Frank from Manchester has it right, the ONLY reason the police probably were not involved is because it went smoothly and no one called them.(...neighbors do not call police when no one is causing trouble). Then the following week rumors got out, parents complained, and the school took action. This is all fair; the school has some recourse, the police cannot do anything after the fact.

In this case it seems that the school and superintendant are doing what they are supposed to. The school is holding kids accountable to its rules, and Mr Cascaddene is acting as a parent and not interferring with it's punishment; good for him!(I suspect his kid will also have to deal with dads punishment next)
- Brian, Manchester

Simply stupid - he is a parent and should be held to the same standards as EVERY other parent. He was out of his house and his teenager took advantage of that situation. His teen will pay the consequence and he's going to be publicly embarassed. The good part is when he drops the hammer on any student for this behavior in his disctrict he'll have understanding from this experience. This is a parent issue, he could be mayor, governor, or president but this is a PARENT issue.
- Steve, Manchester

i think the american people in general are getting fed up with the crooked system we got stuck with when certian people have different rules than the silent working class
- steve, allenstown

Cannot confirm NOR deny.......Isn't that a double-negative????? Who says schools aren't out of control?
- Tracy, Bow

Why all the secrecy??????
- Joe, Bow

It really isn't necessary nor is it a good idea to involve police. If the police had busted the party that would be a different story, but the "incident" was learned about after the fact. Aren't the police busy enough handling "crimes".
- KD, Manchester

All these assumptions! Don't you thing the Police were not called because parents didn't find out until after the fact. I am sure if the Police had been called that night, they would have responded. Also to Fred in Bristol, how are the Police going to charge the superintendant? How can you prove he hosted the party? Good luck. This event sounds like a lot of other parties that happen when parents may be gone for the night.

So relax conspiracy theorists!
- Dave, Manchester

Hey Ralph...that's funny..."a big wig's house"...I don't even think I know where Bow NH is! A big wig of what??? LOL
- Mike, Epping

Maybe no police were called because one those at the party is the child of a high state official?
- Jack Burns, Concord

This should be reported to the Bristol police department by the Bow High School and Mr. Cascadden should be treated like any other parent, and that includes being charged with this drinking party along with being arrested and then go before a judge ....
- Fred Roschow, Bristol

No police were called because it was probably a very uneventful party. So what if the kid is the son of the School superindendant, that should be the headline?
Of course Doug and Ralph never did anything wrong nor their kids if they had any... right!!!!
Talk about making a mountain out of a mole hill here... The UL is really needs to report news... or call theselves the Union Esquire!!!!
- frank, Manchester

Students should be suspend from all events for one year. But still go to school.
- mo, plymouth

When this happens at Joe Blow's house it is an underage drinking party with arrests and a news release. When this happens at a big wig's house it is an "incident" with no arrests and everyone is tight lipped.
- Ralph N., Canterbury, NH

"Police were never called" MY MY !!!
- Doug, Alton