YOUR COMMENTS

No words could express how sorry we are for your loss. Our nephew is currently serving in Iraq.
God Bless
- Donna and John Beatrice, Nashua,NH

We knew Nate from the Seacoast United Family during the founding years. Our hearts go out to the Hardy family and their loss. Steve and Donna are gracious giving people who have experienced the greatest loss any family could suffer the loss of a child. I just wrote this poem with my thoughts of Nate.

Fading away the imprint of our fathers
As the thunder roars
Another baby cries
A voice silenced
A young widow weeps
A community waits only to mourn
As more and more stand against injustice
As we fight for peace
A dream to achieve
To compete against the elite
To what do we gain
Greater than a child's hand
Losing the grip of his father's
As we scale the pain
The true leaders take the lead
Absorbing the brunt
That was Nate

Our deepest sympathy
Ron, Mary Ann, Jaime, and Jared Roberts
- Ron Roberts, Stratham

Your loss brought back the terrible loss that we suffered nearly two years ago when our son Sgt. Russell M. Durgin,10th Mountain Div. Fort Drum N.Y. was killed by small arms fire. My son was a sniper. How do they get caught? mY PRAYERS to you. Lester Durgin, Henniker. N.H.
- lester durgin, henniker.n.h.

Steve
I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about Nate. Everytime time you talked about him I could see how proud you were of him. I just wanted to say how proud we are of him and everything he did for our country.
My prayers are with you and your family
- dave perricoone, NJ

Donna, Steve, Ben, Mindi and Parker,

No words can express the loss you your friends and our community have had to face again. Nate's enthusiasm for life was inspiring.
Nate and all your family showed us how to find strength within ourselves so that we could face the challenges we chose and those we must accept. Love, strength, humor and loyalty are the gifts Nate taught us to treasure. You, as a family, have helped us use this lesson in the past to overcome your loss of Josh, and now we offer them back to you.

You are all in our hearts and and may your memories give you some comfort.
- Jay and Martie Gooze, Durham

My heart goes out to Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker.

Nate was a great friend. His laugh and smile spread lots of joy throughout the world. Just reading these comments show you the impact that his life had on all those he met in his travels.

Nate,
I will never forget soccer, the trip to England, hanging out in the halls of ORHS and saying goodbye to each other as we all went our separate ways after graduation. I haven't seen you in years, but if I had one more chance to see you, I bet you would make it seem like it was yesterday! May God Bless you and may you rest in peace.
- Jeremy Gasowski, Campton, NH

Dear Donna, Steve, Ben, Mindi, Parker, Family & Friends,

Our wish for you is that each new day eases your sorrow and returns to you the many happier memories shared by all. It is rare that someone comes into our life and leaves immeasurable memories in our hearts and minds. We can say that the entire Hardy family has done that for us. Respect, integrity, thoughtfulness, friendly, caring and loyal to friends and their community are just some of the qualities we witnessed of this family. Although we have since moved from Durham, we will always keep you and your family in our prayers. We are grateful and proud for Nate's commitment and service to our country. Indeed his smile will be with all of us forever.
The Walsh Family
- Jim, Mary, Jim & Brendan, Hillsborough, NH

Hardy Family,

I graduated from ORHS with Nate and feel honored like many of the other people who have written just to have known him.
The last time I saw or talked to Nate was 2 years ago at an annual football game at the ORHS fields over Thanksgiving. Although it had been several years since I had seen Nate it was like it was only yesterday.
Nate is truely a hero in every sense of the word and I feel lucky to have known him in my life time.
My prayers and thoughts are with the Hardy family.
- Eric Johnson, West Newton, MA

Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker,

We hope that all of you will cherish the memories of Nate and realize how significantly he affected and influenced the lives of others. You are a remarkable family who's faith has been tested too deeply by the premature deaths of Nate and Josh. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Steve and Donna-you have been wonderful role models to the rest of us as parents who have shown us how to guide and support our children.
Ben-live every day with the memory of your brothers in your heart.
Mindi-we hope that you can help Parker to realize what a remarkable man his father was.

The Tufts family.
- JIm, Leslie, Matt and Kyle Tufts, Exeter, NH

Dear Donna, Stephen, Ben & Family,

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. The Hardy boys were a special part of our summers at Blodgetts. God Bless
- Mary Lee, Blodgett's Landing

It is almost a week ago and still the pain and the grief is overwhelming. This incredible and courageous young man did live his life with such passion and loyalty.....sharing his heart with so many!

We are forever changed by Nate - as he lived his soul's purpose.
Sending healing prayers to family and friends and his loyal buddies at OR.
- Diane Zaidlicz, Lee

During our days at ORMS/HS I met Nate through older brothers and sisters of my close friends. He easily gained my admiration, a sure role model for any teenage boy aspiring to be equal parts courage, determination, wit, and ladies man.

It's clear those attributes stuck with Nate, allowing him to make memorable impacts on people, even those he knew just breifly, as myself.
- Ryan McKown, Portsmouth

My heart is with you. I remember all of us making origami cranes for Josh when he was ill...it was an attempt by high school students to show their love for a fellow student. Though we are now all enraptured with the cares of adulthood and sometimes forget the zeal we had to express love and concern - and the fervent belief that that love could make things better - Lynn Simoneau is right when she says that we all sit in the "hallway" with you and weep together over Nate. We are indebted to him for his sacrifice. We are comforted though at the thought of two brothers reuniting in a place where there is no more sickness, no more wars. My prayers are with you. - God Bless
- Sebastian (Adams) Pignato, Powells Point NC

Nate was an amazing person. I remember watching his brother-in-law challenging him to a boxing match. Nate was too humble to laugh at him. He was a Navy SEAL, he would have destroyed his brother-in-law. He just shrugged it off. I rememeber watching him play with Parker, he truely loved that little boy. I saw Nate last just after Christmas. I went to shake his hand and he pulled me in for a hug. Nate was an amazing part of our family, he will be missed more than I can express.
- Kreg Austin, Provo, ut

There are no words to express how deeply saddened we are over Nate's death. We are heartbroken that you, once again, must endure such pain.

Forever etched in our minds will be blond haired young Nate with his bright eyes and beautiful smile, swimming off the dock, walking the landing, just hanging out with his big brothers and the other kids. It was with excitement and pride he told us he was going to be a Navy Seal, leaving no doubt, there was nothing else he wanted to be.

Nate made the ultimate sacrifice for love of his country. You, his father, mother, brother, wife and son have also made the ultimate sacrifice.

Nate and Josh will forever hold a special place in our hearts, as will you, his wonderful family. "The heart like the mind has a memory and in it are kept the most precious keepsakes" - H.W. Longfellow

We send you our loving thoughts and prayers. May God hold you in His hands and carry you through this difficult time.
- Bob and Marie Britt, Arlington, Ma
- Bob and Marie Britt, Arlington, Ma

To Ben-
I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I was there for you when we all heard that Josh had moved on to a better place. We all cried together at ORHS and were your support system. All of our hearts broke for you and your family. Now, here we are again. My heart bleeds for you. The loss of Nate is something I can't even imagine. Again, we are your support system. Please, keep your head up and realize that friendship is a powerful thing, and though years have passed, we are all sitting in the "hallways" with you grieving together. Don't hesitate to call on us all for support. Class of 1995.
- Lynn Whitney (Simoneau), Hillsboro, NH

Dear Hardy Family,

Having had the pleasure to know Nate and the entire Hardy family, my deepest smypathy goes out to you all--my biggest memories of him will always be those of him receiving a yellow card in a soccer game for tackling someone too hard and him looking at me with his wryly smile like he did nothing wrong--we will always remember you Nate-
- John Cirillo, Chapel Hill, NC

Mindi, I was so sorry to hear about Nate. Love to you and Parker and the rest of the family.
- Craig Armstrong, Portland, Or

Deepest sympathies and prayers to the entire Hardy family, our hearts and prays are with you.
- Sean Burke, San Diego, CA

Dr. Hardy, My son Ford and daughter Breana both students of yours at UNH speak so highly of you as a professor and friend. We are so sorry for your loss. Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family.
- Ford Sullivan, Epping

Who was it who said judge not a man by how he died, but by how he lived. Nate touched many lives in his life, tragically cut short in war, when he was answering his country's call to duty. We grieve at the loss of this special young man. The world, sadly, is a lesser place because he is no longer in it. May God bless his soul and may he rest in peace.
- Len DiSesa, Portsmouth

My thoughts and prayers are with you Hardy family.
- Bryan Johnson, Sandpoint, ID

As I sit here agonizing over this keyboard, trying to find the words to express my sadness over the sudden loss of this great man who was all things to so many…friend, brother, son, loving husband and proud father, I find a momentary reason to smile knowing that it would not take Nate anywhere near as long as it’s taking me to express my feelings! Nate touched countless lives just by being “Nate”. With his joy for life and his dedication to his family, friends and country, he is the best of role models for all of us. We'll miss you Nate. To Mindi, Parker, Donna, Steve and Ben, know that you are in our prayers and that your “extended family” mourns your immeasurable loss with you as we celebrate the memory of all things “Nate”.

Thoughts, Prayers and Love,

Jeff
- Jeff Lang, Halfmoon, NY

Dr. & Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindi, & Parker,

I did not know Nate but wanted you to know that I thank you and your family for the ultimate sacrifice for our country. Regardless of politics, this fine young man loved his country, family and the Navy seals and for that we owe him and you a debt of gratitude. My love and prayers go out to you during this most difficult time. By reading the wonderful testimonials to this fine young man, I see that Nate touched many lives. His baby son will reflect his love and spirit for years to come. I wish you and your family pease and condolences.
- Bonnie Dridi, Rye, New Hampshire

My heart is broken. I have almost felt guilty these past few days over how grief stricken I have been over the loss of a boy I once loved in high school. I have felt self-indulgent pouring over photos of my days with Nate and the infamous "seven", and reading old letters from Nate. But in reading through these pages, it is evident that I am not alone. Nate was one of those rare people that when he touched your life or you, his --he kept you in his heart and it was of course,impossible to forget him.
By all accounts Nate and I were once two silly, love struck teenagers. But the truth was Nate and I had forged a bond well beyond our years. It unfortunately had its roots in the fact that we both had experienced a tremendous amount of loss and pain in our young lives. But with each other we were able to mourn without judgement. And Nate being Nate, in the face of his own pain, somehow reached into my heart and took on my pain as his own. He kept my secrets and promised to always look out for me and "never let anyone put another tear in me eye".
At 17 yrs old I hardly understood the immensity of that experience. But as I moved on into the world and stumbled through "adult" relationships, I quickly realized that I was always searching for "that moment" that I had experienced with Nate. That moment I realized that despite of myself, I was worthy of love and deserved to feel protected and treasured. While Nathan and I had different paths to follow in life, I always carried him in my heart.
And Nate, he stayed true to his word. No matter where I moved in the country or in my life, no matter how far behind I left my days at ORHS, Nate always found a way to send a "hello" via mutual friends and let me know he was still looking out for me.
Then about 4yrs ago, our relationship came full circle. Nate and I both found ourselves in NH. I married with a second child on the way and he very, much a Navy SEAL. He came to see me so he could "see for himself that I was happy"...me the girl who once broke his heart? And then he took my husbands' hand, looked him in the eye and told him to "take care of me". That was the last time I saw or spoke to Nate.
Nate's capacity for love and devotion at 16yrs old was immeasurable. So it is for you Mindi and Parker who my heart truly aches...I can't even begin to imagine the depths of Nate's love and devotion as a grown man, a husband and a father. Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben...as a mother of three little girls myself, I can't even find the words to express my sadness for you.
Thank you Nate, it is because of you that I never did "just settle". You will always have a piece of my heart!
Love always, Dawn
- Dawn M Fernald, Nottingham, NH

Stephen, Donna, Ben, Mindi, and Parker,

I am sadden to hear about the loss of Nate. I remember visiting with Ben and Mindi at Aunt Helen's party and thinking what a wonderful and extraordinary man he had grown into. You are in my thoughts and prayers at this extremely difficult time in your lives. God be with you.

Love, Mary, Bruce, Whitney, and Kendall
- Mary Paige, Westborough, MA

Steven, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker,

My words cannot express the loss and appreciation felt for Nathan, my heart is with you all. Parker your daddy will always be watching you from heaven smiling. Nathan is with his brother and grandfather now they are all loving you.
- Uncle Charlie, Sacramento, CA

It is a testament to the excellence of the Hardy family that they could raise such a brave American. Nate Hardy is a true hero. God bless him for making the ultimate sacrifice. My thoughts and prayers are with the Hardy family during this difficult time.
- Hannibal Handy USMC, San Deigo, CA

Dear Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker,

A flood of memories came back of the blond boy, with the endearing smile, who with the love and support of a very special family became a man, much loved and admired. We will miss you, Nate Hardy, and lovingly will keep you in our hearts forever. This quote by Rebecca Harding Davis speaks of the man that Nate became:

“Down these mean streets a man must go who is not himself mean, who is neither tarnished nor afraid. He is the
hero, he is everything. He must be a complete man and a common man and yet an unusual man. He must be, to use a rather weathered phrase, a man of honor, by instinct, by inevitability, without thought of it, and certainly without saying it. He must be the best man in his world and a good enough man for any world.”

Donna, Steve, Ben, Mindi and Parker, we will always be here for you.

Love,

Claire Merenda
Durham , New Hampshire
- Claire Merenda, Durham, New Hampshire

I met Nate a few summer's back through a common friend and spent the day hiking with him up Mt. Garfield. As we approached the summit, Nate pushed ahead and off the trail to the cliff side of the mountain. Giddy I suppose with memory of my reckless youth, I foolishly followed Nate's path and quite unexpectedly found myself clinging, exhausted and scared, to the steep face of bare rock. "Reach for my hand", Nate commanded from his perch on the summit a few feet above, which I did, and then Nate grabbed my wrist and pulled me up, my legs kicking like an airborne child, and onto the firm ground next to him. That was the first, last and only time I spent with Nate, but I remember now (and always will) how hard and good Nate and I laughed.
- Charlie Gill, Exeter, N.H.

Donna, Steve, Ben, Mindi, and Parker,
We have known the Hardys since the early 1970's and have many fond memories of this magnificent family. As colleagues at the University of Washingon, we saw their three sons begin to grow and mature before they moved to New Hampshire. We felt their pain when they lost Josh (our daughter's age). Now, this tragic news of youngest son Nathan's death while helping protect us all, is unbearable. As a Navy Seal, Nate was at the apex of what he wanted to do. Even with a wife and young son, Nate still felt compelled to fight for our collective freedom in a foreign land. What can we say? He is a hero that words can't describe! Someday little Parker will know more about his brave Daddy, but until then, our deepest sympathies go out to all of you. Please know that we feel your sorrow and only wish we could do more to help you through this terrible time. Love to you all.
- Jack and Elaine Berryman, Kirkland, WA

Dear Hardy Family,
When Zach texted me during the work day Tues. that Nate had died I was in total disbelief and utter shock! This is one of those times in life when my head and heart screams "Why?!" Your family has already experienced more tragedy then any should have to suffer when Josh died.

At times like this I know words are so inadequate. My sincere and heartfelt sympathy goes out to all of you. You are in my heart and prayers.

Mr and Mrs Hardy and Ben,
I pray the faith and love of family, friends and community enfolds you during your journey through grief. I hope when the pain begins to subside a little that you can cherish the wonderful memories and see Nate through the wonderful gift of life he left -- Parker. How wonderful that you have him to focus on during this time of grief.

Dear Mindy,
I do not know you but I want to acknowledge that immensity of your grief. The death of a life partner is excruciatingly painful, especially when you have all the responsibilities of a new baby. I hope that in Parker's laughter you feel Nate's love, guidance and presence always with the two of you.

To all Nate's friends,
I know many of you and the experiences that have made many of you wiser that your years. May you find a way to make sense of Nate's death and let his spirit help you find a way through the pain.
- Jody Goodson, Conway --previously Durham, NH

As a member of the family Iwould like to thank all of you wonderful people for your loving memories,comments and condolences.Theywill help Donna, Stephen,Mindy and Ben deal with their grief. They certainly have helped me.They will also help Parker learn who his father truly was.I especially was touched by the memories of Nate's various smiles.I have seen quite a few of them myself. I remember two of them on Josh's last trip to our family place in Nova Scotia. Nate flashed one of his two dimple smiles after he, Josh and a friend had devoured a dozen ginger cookies,sticky buns and one of two Lemon meringue pies shortly after they had been delivered freshly baked by Cousin Shirley.When there appeared to be nothing left for desert after dinner that night, Nate's face lit up with a smile that was so big that you couldn't see the dimples, whenI produced the second pie that I had hid in a closet. Also , Matty, I want you to know that the cousin that you fell in love with( my Sarah)married a wonderful man, Jason,but only after her protector Nate had given his approval.Love to you all,from , Uncle"Pete",Hardy
- Peter C. Hardy, Waltham,Massachusetts

I knew Nate best as a teammate on various soccer teams. As his teammate on the field I always knew that when I saw a blonde streak in my peripheral vision moving towards an opponent with the ball two things were certain; one, our opponent was about to leveled by Nate and two, Nate was about to be issued a yellow card (sometimes red).

The day before any varsity game at ORHS it was always tradition that the Upperclassmen would scrimmage the Underclassmen. These scrimmages were always quite competitive as the victor had bragging rights until the next scrimmage. Nate, an Upperclassmen at the time, would always exercise certain tactics (usually in tandem with Sherif) to shift the advantage to the Upperclassmen. The Upperclassmen won most of the scrimmages that year because the Hardy-Farag combo. In retrospect if everyone had not been laughing so hard at the sometimes dubious methods employed by Nate and Sherif maybe the win-loss tally would have been more even.

I’ve always had a tremendous amount of respect for Nate. He led his life with conviction, determination, and he had the discipline and focus to see his goals through.

Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker please accept my deepest condolences. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
- Justin Fimlaid, Denver, CO

Yall know that I, and all my family, have always considered you (along with the other neighborhood crew) my second family. I have always said and truly felt that if anything ever happened to my parents, or my family, that I would be able to turn to you. I hope yall feel the same and know that we are your family, we grieve with you, and are ALWAYS here with and for you.
We will just have to continue to love and be with Nate in a different way...and let Parker know him through us.
I love yall so much and my heart is hurting for you.
- Cristin Jenkins, DC

Sitting here, in the middle of the night, with my one-week old son in my lap, and the loss of our true friend in my heart and mind, I am lost between two worlds. Upon hearing the news on Monday I found myself, at first, unable to help "spread the word" for fear I was spreading some terrible, terrible rumor. (I believe it's called denial!) Death never seems real, or possible at first. But the reality of one's passing is the very reminder to us all that life is so, so precious and that it is to be lived exuberantly - which is exactly how Nate lived his life. I am so grateful to have come from such a strong and gracious community. I am so grateful to have so many sweet and loving friends from Durham, New Hampshire. If there's one thing we know how to do, it's take care of each other. We miss you Nate Hardy. And we love you Benny. Donna. Steve. Mindy. Parker. You're in our constant thoughts and prayers.

All My Love and Condolences,
"Mikey"
- Mike Merenda, Jr, West Hurley, NY

The impact made by Nate in my life is undeniable. I have never to this day met another person fillled with the same capacity to love so completely and without judgment. I count myself and my friends among the luckiest people on earth to have been able to share so much time with him and to have endless memories to take with us.
I will be revisiting the collection of Nate Hardy mix tapes that have been out of commision for far too long.
Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindy and Parker you are in my thoughts.
- Megan Smith, Lee

My thoughts and prayers are with the Hardy family during this tragic time. I have fond memories of Nate from the OR days, his genuine soul and beautiful smile.

Fawn
- Fawn (Veno) Harmon, Ellsworth, ME

Dear Ben and Family ~ we've been greatly saddened to learn of Nate's death. Please know that your extended family ~ the Far Post Soccer Club ~ sends our deepest condolences and keeps you in our thoughts and prayers.
- Paulette Bergeron, Essex Junction, VT

To Ben and the Hardy Family, I am so deeply saddened of hear of Nate's passing. I send you many thoughts and prayers and can only hope that your many wonderful memories of Nate bring you some comfort in these hard days that lay ahead. My heart weeps for his wife and son, his parents and brother. Thank you Nate for all that you gave to your family, your friends and your country.
- Alisha Goodson Skoog, Deerfield, NH

Donna, Steve and Ben,
There could never be any words strong enough to express my sympathy. I wish we could each take on just a small piece of your sorrow to ease your pain.
My deepest condolences.
- Debbie Burke, Madbury

My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time as you mourn the loss of an incredable son, brother, husband, father and friend. May God give you all strength.
- Krista (Poole) Carpenedo, Jacksonville, FL

I was raised to believe as a young catholic man that guardian angels were invisible. They were there to protect you. They could be spirits of family members past or they were departed souls colliding within your space and timed fortuitously to intervene when you were placed in harms way. God knows, these angels have saved my ass too many times to count. And then Nate died. After the fury left my soul, I realized that Nate was a living guardian angel. Is there any doubt as you read these testimonies that he not only touched our many lives with such class and style while keeping the silent warrior hero to himself?
Is there any doubt that this guardian angel with an eight month old son, and a loving wife, actively pursued enemies at all cost and with full vengeance? It suddenly dawned on me that there are a few men and women who we will meet in our lives who have special gifts. These gifts you have already read about and are here on display.

Nate called me recently before I had an operation. He talked for over an hour. I asked him several times if he didn’t have something better to do than to talk with his surrogate Uncle Rick. No, he wanted to ease my fears of the upcoming surgery and talk about the joys of parenting. He came to understand and acknowledge that the greatest joy in his life was the birth of Parker with a woman he so dearly and deeply loved. He chuckled at the humbling power a young son could have on his father—knowing that Parker too, could give definition to the word hellion. Nate was not worried. He was in a brotherhood of gifted soldiers.

This angel will be missed, but not forgotten. He will live on in our hearts and no doubt, he will carry us upon his shoulders from time to time. God bless his soul and his son and wife. May there be other guardian angels to protect his brothers-in-arms. And finally, there are no words that can express to you, Donna and Steve and Ben, the depth of sorrow and gratitude this community of friends owes to you and your son.
Rick Renner
- Rick Renner, Kittery Point, Maine

Tears are shed, feelings numbed, hearts saddened, memories rekindled. The remarkable outpouring of sympathy and caring for the Hardy family and the admiration and love for Nathan expressed in this space is extraordinary. We hope that Steve, Donna and Ben can receive some comfort in knowing that we collectively grieve with them-the greater Durham community, the Universty community, and those flung far and wide but for which distance does not ease the loss. You are in our constant thoughts and prayers.
- Don and Ethel Davenport; Christine Davenport Mahle, Lee; West Hartford, Ct

I have been at a complete loss for words since learning about my dear friend Nate. The tremendous impact Nate and his family have had on my life cannot be described here and his loss has hit with equal impact. It’s only now that I can even bring myself to contribute to this forum after selfishly finding comfort in everyone else’s writings. (I’m pretty sure Nate just called me a woman)

Even as I write this, the immediate thought of Mindi and Parker spins out to thoughts of Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, to Ben and Josh, to Nate’s incredible heroism and ability, his integrity, his loyalty… it goes on and on in circles until it’s twenty minutes later, I’m almost at the point of tears and I revert back to Nate’s strength and generosity.

He lived such a life, and affected so many people that the outpour and support over Nate’s loss has been overwhelming; the life he lived effectively enabled him to continue taking care of his friends and family even after his passing. Among other things, for the way he lived and continues to support us I will be forever grateful.

When I think about “what would Nate do if he were here?” it’s pretty obvious to those that knew him: in the face of all this emotion he would say “Love you bro, miss you” and turn his attention to supporting others. In addition to the volumes we could easily write about him, and those that knew Nate would agree, there is no doubt in my mind that Nate would humbly want us to remember to honor the memory of CPO Michael Koch, who must have shared Nate’s passion for our country and loved ones, put others' safety before his own, made the ultimate sacrifice and died by Nate’s side for our happiness and well being.

Echoing Amo’s earlier sentiments… To Mindi and Parker, “my love and loyalty till the day I die.”

Love you Nate, miss you bro.

Bone
- Cris Alvarez, San Diego, CA

I felt honored to be friends with such amazing people. Josh, Ben, and Nate, our days on the dock remain my most treasured memories. Know that your "Blodgett's Family" holds you dear to our hearts.
My deepest sympathies go out to the Hardy Family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
- Maureen (Thayer) Dezotell, newbury nh

There are not enough words to express our deepest sadness for the loss of Nate. He was truly one of a kind that deserves all the honor that one receives when so many people have been touched by his life.
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the hardy family and everyone grieving his loss.
The Churchill family

“We sleep safe in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm.” George Orwell
- The Churchill family, durham/barrington NH

From one Navy family to another, the Larson Family is grateful for the life and service of Nate and deeply mourns his passing.
- stephen r. larson, bass harbor,maine

Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi and Parker,
Words cannot express what Nate meant to myself and many other people. He was a brave and wonderful man and he will be deeply missed. You are all in my constant thoughts and prayers.
- Catherine Gault, Portsmouth

I was lucky enough to go to school with the Hardy brothers and to know their amazing parents, who have always inspired me with their kindness and strength in the face of terrible loss. I was heartbroken to hear of Nate's death, and my deepest condolences go out to Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi, Parker, and everyone else who loved Nate (clearly not a small group of people.) Thank you, Nate, for your courage and all the good you brought into the world.
- Sarah Newkirk, New York, NY

To the Hardy's,

I will always remember Nate taking that yoga class Ben helped me arranged one Thanksgiving break. I don't think it was his kind of thing, but he showed up and gave it his best - as I think he did with all things in his life.
Thinking of you all.
Much Love,
Emily
- Emily Grace, Brooklyn, NY

The Hardy family remains in our thoughts and prayers. We are very sorry for your loss.
- Peter & Molly Sax, Alexandria, VA

Donna, Steve, Ben, Mindi & Parker,

We are all holding you close to our hearts and sending you our deepest love at this most difficult time. Words cannot express the shock and grief we all feel at the loss of Nate. He was a superstar and a special person who touched everyone who was lucky enough to know him. We are so grateful for his warmth and compassion at our time in need. We will forever cherish his friendship, bravery, and courage. Our love and sympathies are with you all.
- Lynn Smith, Dover, NH

Hardy's- Our hearts go out to you.
- Aaron & Kristine, Hugh & Mary Jane, Eric & Sloane & kids
- The Tyler Family, Brookline, MA; Birdsboro, PA; Iowa City, IA

Dear Donna, Steve and Ben,
I am deeply saddened by the news of Nathan's passing. I remember your beautiful family when you were a part of our Allard Elem. School community. I always enjoyed having the boys in PE class. Please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time.
Sincerely,
Polly Fontana
- Polly Fontana, Moon Township, PA

Steve, Donna and Ben,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Having spent many so many great summers with Nate, Ben and Josh has left me with me some of my fondest memories. Nate is a true inspiration and will forever be missed. Thank you for everything you gave our country Nate. God bless you.
- Bryant Porter, Arlington, VA (Blodgett's Landing)

As the proud parents of a Navy SEAL we write to express our deep felt gratitude for the sacrifice Nathan has made for his country.To his wife,seven month old son,father and mother we want you to know that you and Nate will be in our prayers until we draw our last breath.In the great tradition of the Navy SEALS,Nate was a true warrior.
- Frank and Carole McGee, Marshfield MA

Our deepest sympathies and prayers go out to the entire Hardy family. We were lucky to have known him, and we remember his energy and that smile that lights up a room. We will also always remember his sacrifice for us and our country.
- Tony & Patty Hall, Exeter, NH

I heard the news this afternoon and am deeply saddened. I have always had the deepest respect for the Hardy family and my heart goes out to them.
- Katie Crawford, Philadelphia, PA

My deepest sympathies to Steve, Donna, Mindi and Parker. Though I lost touch with Nate over the years since high school, he will always remain an inspirational figure in my life as a true example of chasing your dreams and succeeding. Nate was a great guy and a true American Hero, he will be missed by all.
- Tyler Simpson, Greenwich, CT

RIP Nate.
Thank you for your service to this country. May your son grow up to be a man like you.
- Alden Dill, Northwood NH

Dear Donna & Steve,
This morning we were told the sad news of Nate’s death. We are all thinking of you and want to express our heartfelt sympathy. Though we didn’t know Nate, we will always remember how much you were glowing with pride whenever you spoke of him. Obviously, he was a great man and touched many people’s lives in a positive way. We want to personally thank Nate for serving and making the ultimate sacrifice to help keep our family safe. He is a true hero. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Ben, Mindi and Parker during this most difficult time.
- Heather, Jeff, Jack & Madison Radcliffe, Rye

There are very few people in this world who can be considered role models, but Nate is and always will be at the top of my list. Nate and I have been friends since we were little boys and although our lives moved in seperate directions I have always had the deepest respect for him.

My heart goes out to his Parents, brother, wife and baby and I hope you are able to take comfort in knowing that now he is in good hands and will be watching over you until you meet again.

Rest in Peace Brother, we'll miss you.
- John McKenna, Mission Viejo, CA

I knew Nate from the Oyster River days. He was an exciting person to be around with his mischievous smile and endless energy. His drive, determination, and loyalty were the things that made him an unforgettable teammate and friend. The very same traits made him a highly respected SEAL.

My heart goes out to all that have known and loved Nate and to his family that has been such a positive force in our community.
- Nate Loomis, Durham, NH

To the Hardy family and the entire community of citizens that have been effected, I am deeply saddened by the events of the conflict in Iraq that have resulted in the loss of our brave and courageous hero Nate. I can not provide words that would bring justice to the loss that the wonderful Hardy family has endured. Nate however, will not be forgotten and we, as a loving community, shall bring our support, prayers, love and thanks to Nate and the cause he served. Life does not seem fair. The Hardy family lost their first talented son, Josh, to cancer. Ben, Nate and family were given strength and we as a loving community learned how to carry on together. As the first recipient of the Josh Hardy Scholarship, a sense of responsibility and character had always been part of my commitment. I can only now express that Nate himself fulfilled that pledge to the highest degree and is to be commended and remembered forever with all of our deepest thoughts.
- James D. Davenport, Georgtown, MA

No words can be said to take away your pain. Remember that Nate was special in his life on earth. He stood up for those who could not stand for themselves. He volunteered to protect the people of the country that he loved and to free those oppressed. Please know that our prayers are with you and know he has earned his place with his Heavenly Father.
Bill,Debbie,Shelby(Heritage),Steve,Sara(Niemann) and Nathan MacDonald
- Bill and Debbie MacDonald, South Jordan Utah

I think all of us that had the pleasure of knowing Nate and the Hardy family realize how special he really was. It is a profound understatement to say we will all miss him. I hope I get to meet the woman who captured Nate's heart. Mindi, you must truly be something. And if Parker can grow up into the man Nate was, then perhaps it will all make more sense.

Nate did more things in his all-to-short life that most of us cannot ever hope to do. He positively affected everyone with his personality and that smile. He was a true hero for his ultimate sacrifice. It pains me to think the world has lost one of the great ones. I look at my own three young children and hope that I will be as proud of them as Donna and Steve are of their three sons. The light that burns twice as bright burns half as long, and you have burned so very, very bright Nate.

My family's thoughts and prayers are with Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi, and Parker. Let Nate's legacy live within all of you.
- Rob Thompson, Durham

Just as everyone else explained, Nate is a true inspiration to me! His determination and focus was relentless. I credit him for much of the success I have achieved in my life as I am reminded of his strength in my own times of adversity.

Words cannot express how deeply saddened I am for his family. I hope the love we all feel for Nate will give you some comfort.

As many have said, Nate is in many of my fond childhood memories. I will always remember his smile, his laugh and his incredible charm. I wish I had the chance to tell him the impact he has made on my life.

My heart goes out to Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben, his wife and son and everyone who loved him.
- Melanie Braswell, Andover, MA

Nate, Nate, Nate...whoa buddy...listen, hear me out...it wasn't that I necessarily enjoyed getting chased down by you on a regular basis...or that when you did catch me, I was enthusiastic about discovering how deep my underwear could hide in my behind...it wasn't so much the thrill of watching you retaliate with an elbow or headbutt in the middle of a soccer game, or watching you dive off the tressle, or wolf down the next pint of Ben and Jerry's, or...Natural Lights, as we got older...it wasn't that if you wanted to woo the scores of middle school vixens that you could so easily change from being that tough hard guy to that delicate, soft, sometimes cheesy, girlish phone voice using, "Legends of the Fall" haircut wearing, perfectly sculpted abs kind of guy...we never picked up on that...I mean, well, I did...and I tried...but uh...it didn't really, uh...work...I'm serious...and it wasn't all the "titty twisters" I encouraged, or that I found on my body...it wasn't about the nights at the lake, skinny dipping with Amos' now wife, or the lazy summer days by the pool...it wasn't about that trip to Florida where I fell in love with your cousin...it wasn't about you supporting dad when he had the heart attack, or others...when tragedy struck...and for the record, it wasn't about that tube of toothpaste - actually, I did enjoy that...

Nate you know what it was for me...I loved antagonizing you because at the end of the day...you'd give us, you'd give me, that smile, that infectious laugh... and I would do ANYTHING to get you riled up enough to give us a second..the moment we could all share in laughing so hard we could barely breath...it was, and is about brotherhood. It's that I love you as brother.

And it's that love that allows us to look after your wife and child, as if we were her family. And to teach Parker all about you...and ultimately, to have the chance, to rile him, as I did you so many times...so I can see you laugh once again.

I miss you Nate, we all do...

Love, Matty
- Matty Renner, Los Angeles, CA

It is with great saddness that we process the sudden news of Nate's passing. Along with Jim & Maria Miller, John & Holly Crocker, and PJ & Monique, we had the fortune of spending 1.5 years as Nate & Mindi's neighbors. We remember sharing our Christmas Eve tradition of watching Chevy Chase's Christmas Vacation and then enjoying a neighborhood breakfast the next morning. This is a great loss to all that knew Nate and our hearts go out to Mindi and Parker and family. May it bring a sense of comfort to know how very special Nate was and how his presence brought great joy to everyone. He had a zest for life that was unsurpassed. We will miss him immensely. Thoughts & prayers.
- Kim & Joe Bussard (Dunbar), Sacramento, CA

To Mindi,
Nate was our freind. Forever he remains our Hero. Semper fidelis, Nate.
- Joe & Kim Bussard, Roseville, CA

There are few people in this world that can leave an impression on everyone they meet. Nate was one of those people. He played many roles in his life, son, husband, father, brother, friend, soldier. He excelled at every one of those roles. Nate was the type of person that you never forget and the type of person you will always look up to. I was fortunate to spend my childhood growing up with Nate and because of that for every day of my life I will have memories that will make me smile. He is part of who I am today and he will continue to inspire me. Nate was like a brother to me, I am sure that Nate had many people in his life who can say the same. He would do anything for a friend. He was one of the truest and most genuine people I have ever had the honor of knowing, no matter who it pissed off. I will always have him as a beloved part of my life; my love and strength are with those of you knew and loved Nate, especially his family. Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindy and Parker, know that Nate will always be with those of us who were lucky enough share part of our lives with him, thank you for being a part of who Nate was, truly a hero of mine and many others.

My love, my strength, my memories,
David Jerard
- David Jerard, Boulder, CO

Nate is a hero in the truest sense of the word. I met Nate a few years ago, we were serving in the same area but with different units. nate epitomized everything one associates with a SEAL; courage, integrity, dedication, committment, and honor. Nate put his men first, their safety above his, mission success the number 1 goal, and his undying love for his country at all times.
My heart is broken but I know deep down that people like Nate must die so that folks like you and me can enjoy our freedom. My thoughts and prayers are with Nate's family, may they get some comfort in knowing that Nate dies a true American HERO.
- Devon Marche, Freeport, NY

We can only dream of ever being as brave as Nate. He had a rare combination of toughness and kindness. We'll make sure to keep him with us through memories and inspiration. My prayers are pouring out.
- Joe Mosley, Boulder, CO

I feel very lucky to have called Nate a friend. Growing up in Durham with Nate I have so many great memories of the good times we shared. Anyone who was lucky enough to have Nate in their life, no matter how long, was truly blessed. My heart goes out the the Hardy family and pray that you can find some comfort in how loved and appreciated your son was. May he rest in peace!!!!
- Christian Quint, Sunnyvale, CA

Steve & Donna,
We just heard the tragic news about Nate. We cannot imagine how you are dealing with Nate’s passing but want you to know how deeply affected we are by it. Our boys looked up to all of your boys while we lived in Durham. As parents we shared in your pride in your children’s considerable accomplishments. From the comments we’ve read of those that have most recently known Nate he had grown up to be an outstanding young man who was a true leader, loving husband, and new father. Nate made a decision to serve in a difficult and dangerous situation. We are deeply appreciative of the sacrifice he has made. Steve & Donna, our thoughts and prayers are with both of you, Ben, Mindi, and Parker.
- Linda, Breck, Jared & Seth Bowden, Burlington, Vermont

The comments here attest to the great influence Nate had on the lives of everyone he touched and those who had the honor of knowing him. Nate was a friend at ORHS and could always make me laugh. I was fortunate to be in high school with Josh, Ben and Nate who all my time at ORHS more enjoyable. I am grateful to the Hardy's for letting us play music at their house and for the scholarship that they gave me in honor of Josh which helped me go to art school. My prayers and sympathies go out to the family and loved ones of Nate Hardy.
- Kalim Armstrong, Brooklyn, NY

On behalf of my family, I send prayers and support to the Hardy’s. It is with deep sadness that I acknowledge Nate’s death. I cherish all of the memorable moments we shared together and will always remember his smile, laugh, strength, courage, and love. A piece of my heart rests with him. RIP, Nate.
- Amy (Hall) Adams, La Jolla, CA

Dear Donna and Steve,

I am not sure what to say, I saw Nates name and heard the newscaster talk about the death of a Navy Seal. I called John and he confirmed it truly was NATE.
My heart soul and prayers are with you. As a Marine Mom, I know you are living the worst nightmeare a Military family can. I wish I had something more than words to help you through this incrediable period of pain and sorrow.

In closing I went to bed last night with the image of Nates smile.... you know the one.... " I didn't do it ... and you can't prove it!

In Loving Memories of NATHAN
Denise
- Denise Corleto-McKenna, Durham,

I got to know Nate, Ben and Josh when they became friends with my sons while spending summers at Blodgett landing, They were three of the finest young men I have ever met. I remember Nate as a courteous, friendly young man who always had a smile on his face.

My son, also named Nate, has just returned from Afghanistan. As the parent of someone who has served I understand the commitment to serve that they all must make I want to thank Nate and all other members of the armed forces who have made the ultimate sacrifice for their country.

Please accept our condolences.

Bruce, Nate, Caleb and Seth Chipman
- Bruce Chipman, Grantham

To the Hardy's, and to everyone who was touched by Nate over the years, I send my deepest love and support. The sadness we are feeling is overwhelming. The strength of the Hardy family and the entire community is so unique, I know we will help each other to process this tragic loss. Thank you, Nate, for the friendship we shared. And thank you, everybody, for what you have written here and reminding us all that we are not alone.
- Rachel Gooze, Philadelphia, PA

Dear Hardy family,
We have been thinking of you nonstop and reminiscing about Nate and what a wonderful, magnetic guy he was. We were so proud that he was defending our country - I will never forget Dr Hardy telling me all about SEAL training with the brightest of smiles, so full of pride talking about his beloved son, Nate. I feel honored to have known him. Thank you for bringing such 3 wonderful boys into the world, please know how they have touched our lives. It is such a gift.
Lots of love especially to Mindi and Parker during this time. Take care of each other.
- Casey (Hall) Armstrong, Palo Alto, CA

I can still remember Nate, on the bus in fourth grade. I really admired his independince and personal strength. I always knew he would do big things.
My thoughts are with his family.
- Becki Braswell, San Diego,CA

My finest memory with Nate was messing around in Jackson, NH. He jumped off the cliff first, swimming on his back in the water 50' below he yells "carefull your feet hit bottom." I didn't jump.
- Mike Gault, Madbury, NH

Dear Donna, Steve, and Ben,

I am at a loss having just read this terrible news. Nate was always self-less, funny, smart, athletic, polite, and a joy to be around. His character embodies all that we can hope to emulate in our own lives and relationships. I am fortunate to have known him and will carry his memory from this day forth. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you in these very difficult times.
- Joshua Novis, Montreal, QC

A total stranger would be driven to tears reading these comments.
Without question our great country is not as safe today as it was a week ago. Nate had an incredible impact on everyone he came accross, and I can only imagine how great of a father he was. As always the Oyster River community has proven to be instrumental in the grieving process. When Brian Swift passed away in 1995, Nate was able to relate to what our senior class was going through. His kindness will never be forgotten.
My deepest sympathy and prayers are with the entire Hardy family.
- Brad Taylor, Barrington, NH

there is no greater honor than to give your life for your country! to follow in the footsteps of those who have served before you and willingly gave their lives fighting to preserve the freedoms we had to work so hard to gain! a true hero you are Nathan, and true patriots your family members are for allowing you to follow your heart and your dreams and fight for what you believe to be true. you have bestowed upon us your ultimate sacrifice and for that we say thank you! "for those who've fought for it, freedom has a flavor that the protected will never taste!" don't be a loser, support your troops!
- yancey o. devoy, deerfield, nh

To all Hardy family members;
Sorry for your loss. Nate was a great man. Words can't express how much my thoughts are with you guys.
Condolences
- Adam Goss, Los Angeles

Dear Steve, Donna, Ben, Mindi & Parker:

The entire Seacoast United organization mourns the loss of Nate and our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Chris and I will never forget the memories of having Nate on our first ever team in '93 and taking him to Newcastle, England in '95. He was a special lad destined for great things and all of us were so proud of his 10 years of service as a Navy Seal and for his bravery in serving his country.

The Hardy family has done so much for so many people and we're heart broken for your loss. God Bless Nate and all of the family. Our deepest condolences.
- Paul Willis, Newfields, NH

I had the pleasure of getting to know Nate through my wife Meegan and to witness firsthand how amazing he, his friends, and all their families are. From the the moment I met him i felt like he had always been my teammate, friend, and brother because you could just tell he was one of those rare guys who would truly do anything for his friends and family. This world is lucky to have had someone such as Nate walk this earth; and he is lucky to be survived by so many amazing people that are here for him now; and will always be there for his family, and each other. My deepest condolences to the Hardy's and to all who were fortunate enough to have known Nate.

Tim Whelan
- Tim Whelan, San Francisco

Nate was one of the first people I met after moving to New Hampshire. A volunteer at the New Student Orientation, Nate greeted me with that famous Hardy smile, and showed me the ropes. Who could have guessed I was getting a life-long friend.

I was lucky enough to visit Nate in VA recently. Throughout the visit Nate glowed with pride and adoration over the light of his life Mindi and his beautiful baby boy. Nate spoke so much about his love for his parents and Ben, and for all of the amazing friendships he had made along the way. He was so happy!

I feel blessed and honored to have shared in Nate's life and I am heartbroken over our loss.
- Stephanie Zaidlicz Goss, Swampscott, MA

Nate was a great teammate and friend, I remember the day he told me he wanted to join the Navy and how excited he was, he always did what he enjoyed and did it with passion, my family thoughts go out to all of his family in friends.
- Nicolas Curtis, Newton ma

I am forever thankful to have known Nate, to have enjoyed his friendship and been inspired by his heart. No amount of words do justice, no amount of tears drown sorrow, but I take comfort that time will not dull the memory of such a significant man.

In body or in spirit we need heroes in this life that encourage us to be better people, pursue loftier goals, embody greater ideals, and push us past the limits we self-impose. These heroes, these Nate Hardy’s of the world, are a precious and rare breed. For all that know him, the privilege is ours, and will continue to be as his spirit lives on within us.

Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindy and Parker, my prayers and thoughts are with you and with all as we mourn this devastating loss.
- Andrew Ladd, Santa Monica, CA

Nate's reputation preceded him and both his actions and achievements were highly regarded in his community. Through yours and Capt. Bisset's stories he became a role model for me and his death touched home for me on many levels. Not a day will go by during my training that I will not think of him because I would not be here today without your support and the advice you've given me.
- Benjamin DiSesa, Coronado, CA

I first came to know Nate as a rival on the soccer field. Upon becoming a part of the UNH/Durham community I was fortunate to come to know him as loyal and dedicated friend, no doubt some of the same attributes that distinguish him as the hero he is.

My heart aches along with many today. Nate will never be forgotten and I am proud to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with Dr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindy and Parker.
- Patrick Donegan, Denver, CO

Dear Donna, Steven, Ben, Helen, Mindy, Parker and all of your extended family,

I am deeply saddened by the loss of Nate. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Nate's service to our country will not be forgotten by my family.
- Jennifer "Iacopino" Richard, Blodgett Landing

We were blessed and privileged to also be neighbors of Nate and Mindi while they were in California. Both of their presences are missed here. Our hearts, prayers and thoughts go out to Mindi, Parker, and both families.
- PJ and Monique, Pacific Grove, California

After reading everyone's comments I could not agree more with everything that has been said. Mr. and Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindi, and Parker, there are no words to describe how sorry I am for your loss. You have all defined support for Nate and I know that he could not have asked for anything more in life. Nate has also been one of the most influential people in my life and I will forever cherish our relationship. You are all in my prayers during this extremely difficult time. With all my love.
- Meegan Smith Whelan, San Francisco, CA

On behalf of my family and I, we wanted to let you know that our hearts hurt deeply for you. You are and have been such a supportive and caring part of our journey and we are so saddened by your loss. You are part of a community of people that love you and mourn with you. A community that stretches far and wide, that loved Nate and was so proud to know him. We admire your courage, feel gratitude to you for giving the world a brave, strong and fearless man and pray for your comfort.
- Jaime (Smith) Gault, Portland, Oregon

Dear Steve, Donna & Ben,

Just to let you know that people are thinking of you in your grief from afar and we wish you strength and support through the many thoughts and prayers of friends and family,

Ashley
- Ashley (Brown) Cartmel, Durham

Words cannot express the deep sorrow and sadness our family feels for Steve, Donna and Ben. Our thoughts and prayers will be with each of them during this most difficult time.

As a teacher at ORMS, I had the wonderful opportunity to have Josh, Nate and Ben in my physical education class. All of the boys were outstanding students and school community members. Nate always participated in my class with enthusiasm, energy and a smile on his face. My job was easy with Nate's infectious personality that spread within his peer group.

As Nate became a young adult, I admired his commitment and dedication to the armed service and our country. In this time of many "shallow" and "phony" heroes, Nate is a "true hero" and I am proud to have spent time with him.

Tim Quint
- Tim Quint, Durham

Dr. Hardy took me under his wing as a student at UNH. Condolences to the family of this great young man, Nathan Hardy. So sorry for your loss.
- Kevin Gray, Bow, NH

Steve, Donna, Ben and Mindi,

I am so sad to hear the news that you have lost your precious Nate. I know he died a skilled Navy Seal, a man of great conviction, a proud father, and a devoted husband, but in my mind he is still a smiling teenager.

Today I am remembering these smiles . . .

the 'get-ready-for this' smile that crossed his face just before he challenged a buddy to a wrestling match.

the 'it-was-nothing' smile just after he and his friends managed to get a large refridgerator down a very narrow hallway.

a very special 'can-you-believe-it's mine' smile when he came to the house to show us his new truck.

I have some idea of the happiness that he brought my son Amos. I can only imagine the particular happiness that he must have brought each of you. He was a beautiful person. His light shines still. Thankyou for sharing him with us. How deeply we feel for your loss.
Meg Cuddihee
- Meg Cuddihee, Dallas, TX

Nate's smile, laughter, and strength were contagious and his love for life filled every room that he entered. Always a hero...I feel honored and blessed to have known him. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
- Lesley Folensbee, Boston, MA

These are the most heartfelt, emotion filled comments. I had to take a break from reading them to not cry. How rich you all are to have known him. Deepest condolences to his family.
- Joy, Bedford, NH

Dr & Mrs Hardy and Ben,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that friends far and wide are thinking of you during this difficult time and wishing strength and many fond memories.
- Ashley (Brown) Cartmel, Durham, NH

A friend of mine who knew your son through his daughter's friendship, starting in Junior high school, felt compelled to tell me about his death. He wrote about a day spent with your son, whom he described as an American hero, climbing a mountain in NH.

I pray that all of those who knew your son will remember similar good times spent together. Also, For the rest of us who are unaffected by war, to remember and honor your family's sacrifice.
- John Yaney, Barrington, IL

It was an honor to know Nate. He was a true American hero in my book, and this country was fortunate to have him. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of his family. He was the best of the best at what he did. Thanks Nate.
- Brian Taylor, Madbury, NH

Nate and I became fast friends in spanish class...our nicknames were Bea and Paco. We used to write funny poems to each other about our classmates. From this time we developed a great friendship and when I moved to NC he was a source of strength for me when I was so far away from home. And I remember this most about him: his strength. He was always so amazing that way. My family and I extend our deepest sympathy to the Hardy family. Our prayers of comfort are with you.
- Jenn Alford-Teaster, Concord, NH

The Hardy Family,

Nate was a great teammate, a caring friend, and, more importantly, a wonderful person. We are all greatly in debt to him and his service to our country. He will be missed and his memories will stay with us forever. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
- Matt and Lisa Whittier, Medford, MA

God be with you. Brothers are hard to replace.
- Former SEAL Operator, IL

Dr. & Mrs. Hardy, Ben, Mindi, & Parker -

We'll miss Nate beyond words. He was an unbelievable father, husband, brother, son, and friend. Each of us who were fortunate enough to have known Nate, count him as both a role-model and a hero. Nate was an endless source of happiness and enthusiasm for life; May the memories of his smile, personality and the impact he had on so many people carry you through these difficult times and beyond.

You are all in our prayers and may God rest Nate's pure soul and provide peace to his family and friends.
- Sherif & Nadine, Framingham, MA

My thoughts and prayers go out to the Hardy Family. I am deeply saddened by your loss, the countries loss and the loss of a friend. Spending the summers with Josh, Ben and Nate have given me memories that I will never forget. God Bless.
- Bobby Britt, Arlington, MA

To Ben and the entire Hardy family,
I am heartbroken to hear of your loss. You are all in my prayers and thoughts.
Abby (Smith) Davis
- Abigail (Smith) Davis, Bradford, Maine

Since the Hardy's have become a part of my life back in the early 90's, I have not met a more wonderful example of how beautiful a family can truly be. I was shocked when I heard the news, and I immediately called them to confirm... Stephen instantly started to console me after he told me what happened... Me, of all people, who had not seen Nate in nearly 5 years... I love the Hardy's very much and my deepest sympathies go out to them and everyone who had their life touched by Nate. He was an incredible person who was raised by a incredible family.
- Chris (Murph) Kasiewicz, Portland, OR

Although we never met Nate, I feel as if we knew him and Mindy and Parker through all the pictures and stories that Jessica and Dan have shared with us over the years. Their wedding on the beach and how the group of friends got thrown out of their hotel room even though they weren't making any noise...the group of guys and their girlfriends and wives at each other's weddings the last couple of years...the December get together of friends converging in Virginia before Nate left again and sharing a turkey dinner as Thanksgiving that they could all be together. We grieve for everyone who knew and loved Nate, but especially for your family.
Patty and Jeff Proulx
- The Proulx Family, Jaffrey, NH

My heart goes out to the Hardy family and the community in general. The Hardy's are such a loved part of the Durham community and have touched so many over the years. Thank you Steve and Donna for fostering such a loving and caring spirit in all your children.
- John Hill, Raleigh, NC

I feel very fortunate to have had the opportunity to call Nate a friend. There are not enough words to describe what a great person he was or say how truly sorry I am. Nate will be deeply missed but never forgotten. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
- Jessica Proulx, San Diego, CA

Nate was one of the most intelligent, hardworking and dedicated people i ever knew. In a war full of great soldiers, i have no doubt that Nate was head and shoulders above the rest. Thank you for your bravery. RIP
- Chris Heath, Barrington, NH

Donna, Steve, and Ben - my family (old and new) are all holding you in our dearest thoughts as you travel to Virginia. There are not proper words to express the grief we feel, but I can say that you have been a source of love and strength and courage in my life for many years. This is a day that we hoped to never see, but I also know that Nate believed in what he was doing and was an inspiration to those around him. We send our love also to Mindy and Parker.
- Sarah (Gooze and Cox families), Lee

I've known Dr. Hardy when I was a sophmore at UNH. Dr. Hardy has always been a mentor and helped me become the person I am today. When I was in the hospital and almost died Dr. Hardy was there to support my mother and send good wishes.

I'm extremely devastated by the death of his son. I can't imagine what it feels like to lose your son. Being the father of an 11 month old child I can tell you that I would do anything to protect my son.

My prayers and well wishes are with them today and forever. No parents deserve to outlive their children.
- Kevin Sheehan, San Diego California

I sit here at work... my heart aches for the Hardy family and all of the people like myself that he has touched. Nate was an incredible ray of personality that shed light on my soul as a schoolmate in the halls of ORHS. Memories are the legacy of love and I hope they carry you all through this very difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss...
- Chantal Grady-O'Brennan, Binghamton, NY

Terrible news to add to an already gloomy day out West. My family sends it's prayers back east to The Hardys. "Death is nothing else but going home to God, the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity". - Mother Teresa
- Nathan Bean, Seattle, WA

Steve and Donna:

We are heartbroken at your loss, and cannot imagine the pain you are enduring. Know that we are sending you our love and prayers. Take great pride in having raised such a magnificent person and hero in Nate. Our deepest condolences.
- Richard and Sharon Hussey, Scarborough, NY

Donna, Stephen, Ben, Mindi, and Parker, Our hearts are breaking. We wish we could take your pain away. Know that we love you all and that Nate was truly our hero. Love , Your sister and family
- Faye Burnell, Newbury

I was sitting with my daughter this morning, watching the news like every other morning...When I heard the shocking news of your son's passing. I am at a loss for words. I'll always remember his big, sincere smile. During our high school days I was very shy, Nate befriended me, I will never forget his kindness. I am so sorry for your loss. He was truly one of the wonderful people in the world. He will be deeply missed.
- Sarah Dahlgren, Dover

we are so sorry for your loss. nate was an amazing person who accomplished so much in his life at such an early age. we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Mer & Jesse
- meredith (watson) & Jesse, dover nh

In response to JD's comments. Every soldier who "volunteers" for duty in the US armed forces does so because they are patriots to the US and are giving themselves for a higher cause called freedom. Your comments are reminiscent of the drug smoking hippies of the sixties who couldn't get off their fat a____ to defend anything other than how to get their next fix. Your comments are disgracefull!
- D Williams, Merrimack

Steve, Donna, and Ben:

Dan called us yesterday, and we were all devastated by the news, as was he.

Cynthia tried to write something here but could not, and so asked me to try, since I'm the one who's supposed to be good with words.

In the end, I have no words, and I suspect there are no words. I can only tell you that Nate was significant to all our lives -- especially Dan's -- and that he will never be forgotten by any of us.

If there is anything we can do, now or ever, please call on us.

-- Charlie McClain
- The McClain Family, Lee

Nate played a vital role in the person I am today and what I aspire to be as man moving forward. A hero of mine long before his military service or honorable death.

Thanks to Mr. and Mrs. Hardy for giving us this life. A joyful boy who became the best of men. And thanks to Mindi for giving us his son, who has my love and loyalty til the day I die.

I've really enjoyed reading everyones thoughts. What a life to lose.
- Amos Goss, Swampscott, MA

Nate’s actions define the type of man he was. He lived and died for something he believed in. I am happy that I had the chance to thank him and tell him how proud I was of him for defending each and everyone one us. I cannot think of anyone more self-less and qualified to do what he did. My heart goes out to Hardy family, his wife and child. I will carry his memory with me for the rest of my life.
- Brian Trojan, Boston, MA

Very difficult to put our sorrow into words.
The Hardy family Donna, Steve, Josh, Ben & Nate have been such an intregal part of the Durham, Oyster River and University communities.

Our hearts go out to you at this difficult time.

Bridget, Steve, David & Nicolas Curtis
- Steve Curtis, Madbury NH

My thoughts and prayers are with Nate's family and friends. May God give you the strength you need through this difficult time. Thank you Nate for all you have given to this country and each and every person within. May you now rest in peace.
- Nikki (Todd) Douglass, Durham, NH

My thoughts and prayers are with you Hardy Family.
- Nate Stevens, Boulder, CO

Nate was a teammate and a friend. May he rest in peace.
- John Tansey, Rollinsford NH

JD - Please take your uninformed opinions to the DemocracticUnderground where they belong. This is not the place for it.
- Ted, Dover

My family will sleep safer tonight because of the sacrifice your son was willing to make for our great Country. Be always proud, for you brought a hero into this world. Our thanks & our prayers are with you.
- Parks Christenbury, Dover, NH

Your son is a hero to this Country. I am very sorry for your loss.
- Jim, Goffstown

God bless you and your family during this difficult time.
- Jim Yurick, UNH 77, Houston, TX

My heart goes out to the Hardy's family, friends and community. Nate will be greatly missed.
- Tara Bragdon Fox, Portland, Maine

Dr Hardy,
I graduated ORHS with Nate and played sports while growing up with both he and Ben and although our lives have gone in different directions I often think back on OR Nate is always a part of those memories. Nate had a great impact on many of our lives then as I'm sure he has done for many along his path. I'm sure the sadness of his loss will be felt everywhere he has been. Right now I can only think to say Thank you Nate, for everything.
Conor McManus
- Sgt McManus, Conor, Montpelier, VT

War is a terrible thing, but unfortunately our country’s honor, security, and way of life is at stake. Nate Hardy was a courageous and brave patriot, in every sense of the word. Only the Hardys and those close to them know the horrendous loss they have experienced. Donna and Steve Hardy lost their oldest son to cancer, after he fought a courageous battle with the dreaded disease. Nate, always the center of strength for not only his family, but for those who had the honor to know him was a brave, fun loving, idealistic, honorable and kind hearted sole. He loved life, his family and his country. He died taking up the call of his country, fighting for what he believed was right for all of us. He was the bravest of the brave, going in to the heart of a sinister people, trying to excise the cancer, that if not cut out and eradicated will destroy us all. He will be dearly missed, always remembered, and never forgotten. My deepest sympathy, prayers and lasting memories of a wonderful son, husband, father, and honorable and courageous Navy SEAL go out to the Hardy family.

Michael Merenda
Durham, NH.
- Michael Merenda, Durham

I am so very sorry about the loss of your beloved son. Thank you, thank you for what your son and your family have given to our country. God bless you all and keep you close.
- Cathy Bilodeau, Northfield

I was heartbroken when I heard the news this morning and have had you in my prayers ever since. Please find peace in knowing Nate died doing something he loved, for a country he loved. For that, and so much more, he will always be remembered in our hearts.
- Laurie (McDowell) Twomey, Dedham, MA

Dr. Hardy,
I was a student of yours at UNH and a friend of Nate's in the ORHS days. Nate served his country doing something 99.9% of his fellow generation wouldn't have the emotional or physical strength to have even trained for. I'm sorry for your family's loss.
- Ben Jenkins, Philadelphia, PA

It is a shame the architects of the Iraq war George Bush and Dick Cheney will never make any personal sacrifice for this war.
Dick Cheney's and George Bush's only "sacrifices" are to line their pockets with bloody oil money and reap sky rocking profits from their relationships with defense contractors of the USA government.
Our hearts and prayers are with you Professor Stephen H. Hardy.
- JD Williams, Manchester NH

Your son has made the ultimate sacrifice to protect the freedoms and way of life we at home often take for granted. Only those who have lost a loved one in war can know what you are going through. I pray the memories of your son's life can sustain you in this tragic time.
- D. George, Dover

Dr. Hardy-
You took such good care of myself and my friends especially during our time at UNH. Words do no justice. Our deepest condolences.
-TS JP EC and LG
- Edward Caron, Brookfield, CT

Sorry for your loss.
- Michael King, Epping

We were neighbors of Nate and his wife Mindy while they lived in CA. We are heartbroken about Nathan's death and send our love and condolences to all of his family.
- Jim and Maria Miller, Pacific Grove, CA