After tragedy, grandparents are raising three children
November 28. 2012 10:36PM
This 73-year-old grandmother never expected to be raising her grandchildren. But after their parents died four years ago, she took four of her grandchildren, ages 1 to 12, to live with her and her husband. (See Santa list, Page B1.)
The oldest child now lives with her father, but the three youngest still live with the woman who likes to be called "Nana" and her husband. "It's very hectic," she said, with energetic children now ages 12, 7 and 5 in the house.
Nana said she had been working when the children came to live with her and her husband.
"I had to quit my job," she said, and go on Social Security.
The children aren't demanding, but the work is pretty much all hers, since her husband has been diagnosed with cancer and has to take 18 pills a day. She takes seven, in large part because of her osteoarthritis and its complications.
But even with hers and her husband's Social Security and the survivor benefits the children receive, it's very difficult to provide for a family of five financially.
She had to get a reverse mortgage on her home and she worries she won't be able to pay the real estate taxes due next month. She said: "It's one thing after another."
Her oldest grandson struggles with reading, she said, "but the schools are great." They provide extra help for him. The younger children are both doing well in school and don't seem to need extra help.
From month to month, she said: "We manage." But there is nothing extra for Christmas presents and for special food treats.
So the Union Leader Santa Fund for the Salvation Army will make a significant difference for this family at Christmas.
"We went overboard the first Christmas after the children's parents died," she said, giving the oldest boy an Xbox; now her youngest grandchild is asking for one of his own this Christmas. Her granddaughter would like an American Girl doll.
The generosity of Santa Fund donors makes it possible for the holidays to still be a joyful time. The Santa Fund makes food, clothing and gifts available during the holiday season, so financially stressed families can put their resources toward paying bills for basic needs.
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