Nursing degree is dream of mom caring for 2 kidsBy BILL SMITH
New Hampshire Union Leader
December 13. 2012 11:49PM
With just another year in school, "Iris" could qualify to take the test to become a licensed practical nurse, with higher pay and a work schedule that would allow her to meet her family responsibilities.
But with an autistic child needing around-the-clock care, a second child being evaluated for a form of autism and an estranged husband who contributes $50 a month in child support, it is a goal that remains outside of her grasp.
This year she's turning to the Union Leader Santa Fund for the Salvation Army, (See list, Page B1.)
Iris said she's been battling for the past two years, since her husband's drug abuse and a cut in hours at work left the small family homeless.
"I cannot tell you how I always manage to make it work," Iris said. "It's God. I can't explain it,"
After years of dealing with her husband's drug use, Iris, which is not her real name, filed for divorce.
"Every time we go to court for child support, he has no job," Iris said.
Iris works part-time as a secretary with a local health-care provider. She cares for her severely autistic 5-year-old every afternoon.
The boy has a tactile disorder that makes feeding him a time-consuming chore. Another son has autism-related school adjustment problems.
"As a nurse, I will have more flexibility," Iris said. "I could make more in a shift than I do some weeks."
Work toward her nursing license is put aside as she works and cares for her family.
"I try to shield my kids from things," Iris said.
An empty Christmas would pierce that shield.
"They love toys," Iris said. "That would make them happy."
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