Susan Dromey Heeter's Budget Vogue: Texts and emails may be faster, but thank-you note is foreverBy SUSAN DROMEY HEETER June 08. 2018 5:40PM
Handwritten notes of gratitude and caring are part of my Budget Vogue fashionista persona this week. Inked messages of thoughtfulness are a reminder that it never, ever hurts to express gratitude for a job well done, for a kindness given.
A while ago I met up with my daughter's former Spanish teacher. My daughter had written her a thank-you note back at the end of the year, expressed how much she'd enjoyed her teacher's enthusiasm, joy and kindness. And this educator had tears in her eyes when she told me how much this note meant to her - she seriously wanted to frame it. That brought me joy and reminded me that words, especially words written on paper, can mean so much.
And simple acknowledgements can mean so much, too. This same teacher has a son who ranked in the top 10 of his graduating class. And I read his write up in the paper. To this day, I am not sure of the schools to which he was accepted, or what major he chose; I simply remembered that he took the time to thank the teachers who had educated him along the way. "Bravo!" I thought as I read about his math, English and language instructors; "Bravo!" to this wonderful boy raised well, a true class act for acknowledging to himself and the world that he'd not done anything alone but with so much support.
I'm not good at much; I cannot make cupcakes or a dress but I can write a decent thank-you note. And last summer I wrote one to one of the benefactors of a scholarship provided to my daughter. She, of course, has already written her own note, but I thought, "Well, why not I?" So I wrote a note describing how much his generosity has made a difference in our lives. And then this gentleman called to thank me for a thank-you note. Apparently, he'd never received one before from the parents of scholarship recipients. And I was so grateful I had the time to express thanks - realizing those moments meant something to someone.
It's good to give thanks, to write thanks, to appreciate even small acts of kindness. And I bask in carrying around note cards so I can write notes on the go; I don't have to wait until the "time is perfect" to scribe a few words. I often find fabulous stationery at thrift shops.
Texting and email seem to have replaced the art of the scribe. I don't keep texts or emails very often but notes stay. I invite you, Budget Voguers, to write a note of gratitude to a teacher, a friend, someone who has served you well. It really may make a difference.
And, as always, I thank you warmly for reading. Perhaps I'll even write you a note.
Susan Dromey Heeter lives and teaches on the Seacoast. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Budget Vogue appears monthly.