We know phones are bad for us. Now, ‘digital detox’ is a business model

Many people feel tethered to their phones. One survey put the number of times people look at their phones a day at 52; another survey pegged it at 80.

How often do you look at your phone each day, checking Twitter, Instagram, Slack or whatever emails might have come in over the past five minutes?

More than you might realize.

A 2018 Deloitte survey showed Americans look at their phone 52 times a day on average. Tech insurance and support company Asurion’s 2018 survey pegged it at 80 times a day. “Tech neck” is approaching public health crisis levels. If you’ve ever ignored your partner to look at your phone, you’ve taken part in a behavior known as “phubbing,” a term coined in 2012.

We love our phones. A lot. Is it an addiction? Experts disagree.

Wendy Wood has an entire chapter of her forthcoming book “Good Habits, Bad Habits” titled “How To Stop Looking at Your Phone So Often.” Wood, a provost professor of psychology and business at University of Southern California who studies habits, says phone usage — while pervasive — doesn’t rise to the level of addiction for most people.

“Addiction is characterized by an inability to stop using a drug, in this case a phone; failure to meet work, social or familial obligations; and sometimes, depending on the drug, tolerance and withdrawal,” Wood said. For most phone users, that’s not the case. “For most people, phone use is more of a habit that we haven’t quite figured out how to control,” she said.

But some think phone usage does qualify as an addiction, particularly among younger people. Digital sociologist and USC lecturer Julie Albright is the author of the book “Left to Their Own Devices: How Digital Natives Are Reshaping the American Dream,” which explores the impact devices have had on young people’s real-life connections.

“I didn’t used to use the word ‘addiction.’ I didn’t like the word ‘addiction,’ ” she said. But at this point, she believes it fits, particularly for Gen Z, the oldest of which are finishing college now. A sorority house mother on campus mentioned to her that the girls seemed to have lost the art of conversation; that they speak briefly to one another at group dinners but all quickly gravitate back to their phones. She said the dean of religious life at USC told her he gets a question from a student at least once a week now that he never received five years ago: “How do I make friends?”

Google searches for “digital detox” have been rising steadily over the last five years. At the same time, rates of depression, anxiety and other mental health issues among teens and young adults — the group that collectively spends the most time on their phones — have spiked.

Also springing up to help those who need a little external assistance to guide their “digital detox” is a world of coaches, books, podcasts, wellness programs, camps and retreats.

As with so many problems in our lives, the cause can also facilitate the solution.

Andy Petranek is co-founder of the Whole Life Challenge (wholelifechallenge.com), a six-week online game in which you compete against your friends, family and other players to try to develop better habits in areas like nutrition, exercise, sleep and well-being. A challenge earlier this year drew 28,000 people. Enrollment costs between $29 and $59, depending on how far in advance you sign up.

Every week, a new well-being practice is announced. Sometimes, Petranek said, it’s decluttering or meditation. Other times, it’s related to digital detox: No phones during meals for a week. Turn off phone notifications for a week. Move social media apps off your home screen for a week.

One was “no social media for a week,” which “generated a very strong, interesting response,” Petranek said: “People responded to that as if we told them they could no longer communicate with their grandchildren.”

We know phones are bad for us. Now, ‘digital detox’ is a business model

Life coach Laurin Seiden, sitting in her Los Angeles home, says the issue of phone addiction comes up a lot with her clients.

If you need one-on-one help, you could find someone like Laurin Seiden, a life coach based in L.A. (laurinseiden.com) who’s been coaching since 2007. In 2014, she started hearing complaints from clients about phones and social media. Over time, she said, it seems as if feeling tethered to phones and social media has gone from being something people are concerned about to something people just live with as a fact of daily life.

“Now it’s just the norm. It’s almost like we’ve been numbed to the noise,” she said.

She tries to get clients to outline goals and values: what they really want out of their lives versus what they’re doing to achieve it. Frequently, she said, that involves a hard conversation about phone time. Seiden charges $500 to $700 per session or $375 a session in packages of 10.

Some people might just need a reset from their phones. Enter Camp No Counselors (campnocounselors.com), a 21-and-over weekend camp where phones aren’t welcome. Dave Kushner, director and “head camper,” said Camp No Counselors started in 2013 as a big trip for a group of friends. The idea: Wouldn’t it be awesome if we rented some old campgrounds for a week and relived summer camp? They inadvertently picked a place with no cell service. At the end, they realized being forcibly removed from their phones felt rewarding, not punishing. When they expanded into a company, they made it one of the core tenets that phones had to stay behind in the bunks.

“People say often it’s the best part of the weekend, because you’re allowed to get yourself off that leash,” he said. “Sometimes you feel phantom signals from your pocket for the first day or so. But it’s so nice to just be able to escape again. It’s a luxury in this time to be able to escape a lot of the stresses of the real world. People love to drop that for just a weekend.”

The average ticket price is $500- to $600. Prices start at $550, which includes four days of lodging, food, late-night snacks, and classic camp activities like archery, dodgeball, arts and crafts, hiking, friendship bracelet weaving and water slides. Also, a not-so-classic activity: an open bar. A paid photographer captures the activities to further reduce phone temptation. Camps are run in Valencia and in Wayne County, Pa., and Kushner says the company is looking to expand to more cities in 2020.

If you’d rather not cough up hard cash to look at your phone less, here are a few tips. Put your phone away during meals. Practice intention: Before you pick up your phone, ask yourself why. Are you bored? Uncomfortable? In an awkward social situation? Sit with that for a minute and decide whether you have a good reason to be looking or if it’s just a reflexive motion. If it is reflexive, put the phone down. That’s free.

Wednesday, December 11, 2019
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